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%OPEN HONEST ACKNOWLEDGMENT DISCUSSION RELATIONS+970807
%INTIMATE DIALOGUE REVELATIONS INSIGHTS DESIRES+970807
%BEHAVIORS PLEASURES THOUGHTS FANTASIES INHIBIT+970807
%FAILURE INTENTION TABOO DIFFERENCE PERVERT SEX+970807
%LIBERATE MUTUAL INTERACT CONNECT REFLEXIVE ACTION 970807
We cannot behave in informed and wise ways if we
cannot acknowledge, share and discuss our most significant
and/or important experiences --- because of collusions,
embarrassments and/or inhibitions. Such experiences
include sexual aspects of our lives which entail the
following --- and also our attitudes, feelings and
thoughts towards the following:
FANTASIES INSIGHTS DESIRES TABOOS
PLEASURES BEHAVIORS INHIBITIONS FAILURES
REPRESSIONS FAILURES INTENTIONS DIFFERENCES
PERVERSIONS LIBERATIONS MUTUALITIES INTERACTIONS
CONNECTIONS REFLECTIONS DIALOGUES MONOLOGUES
REVELATIONS REPRESSIONS SUPPRESIONS COLLUSIONS
Often we are controlled in disintegrative ways by
external influences, inhibitions, and considerations which
show no respect for our own personal integrity --- or we
may be controlled in disintegrative ways by our previous
unwise internalizations of such controls. It is not a
simple or easy matter to transcend such disintegrative
controls --- and it may appear to us to be a terrible
thing to seek to transcend such disintegrative controls
because of the risks of making grave mistakes in seeking
to do so.
If through some divine miracle we do experience some
transcendence of disintegrative controls of our sexuality
--- we may be terrified by the experience and feel full of
shame and/or guilt --- in keeping with previous
internalizations of such controls. When we are ignorant
and embarrassed by our ignorance it is difficult for us
individually or together to imagine how we might
understand ourselves and act with both personal and
communal integrity within liberating intimate
relationships.
Our highly respected scientific ways of dealing with
many aspects of our relationships with external realities
---are impotent (powerless) in the face of the highly
reflexive realities suggested above --- because they are
not purely objective realities. They are highly
reflexive realities and do not fall within the domain of
objective realities which are amenable to purely
scientific understandings, manipulations and controls.
Our highly respected religious ways of dealing with
many aspects of our relationships with each other are also
impotent (powerless) because they also call upon us to
deal with each other in ways which depend greatly upon
making judgements upon the basis of objective evidence and
considerations. It is not a simple matter to do justice,
love, mercy and walk humbly with God and each other ---
while we are preoccupied with objective understandings,
manipulations, and controls --- which tempt us with trying
to be in control of many realities which are not ours to
control and which we cannot have the power to control. In
such matters we are prone to play collusive games of
mutual self-deception about what our rights, powers and
responsibilities are.
Human efforts are usually disintegrative when they
entail:
DISHONESTY COERCION VIOLENCE THREATS
COLLUSIONS ADDICTIONS CODEPENDENCE ARROGANCE
PRETENSIONS ALIENATION ANGER REVENGE
REPRESSIONS SUPPRESIONS IMBALANCE WARS
To act wisely in integrative ways we need to deal
openly and honestly with the disintegrative patterns of
behavior indicated above.
(c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
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