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                %VALUES OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS-2 810403

     People  will  often  choose  (for  themselves/others)
goals   which   serve  the  purpose  of   inhibiting   the
development   of   intimate  relationships   which   might
challenge  comforting traditions, taboos,  collusions,etc.
Also, some people may avoid intimate  relationships due to
a fear  that  within intimate relationships they might  be
even  more  vulnerable to the imposition upon them of such
goals.

     These two considerations are not logically consistent
with each  other,  and  together  constitute   a  sort  of
paradox.    Avoid "B"  by a dedication to "A".   Fear  "A"
being imposed upon  you  within  "B".    Here "B"=intimate
relationships.    "A"=pre-chosen goals.   Out of fear that
improper  goals  may  be imposed upon you  within intimate
relationships,  keep out of intimate relationships.    One
way to keep out  of intimate  relationships is to dedicate
yourself to impersonal (improper?) goals which inhibit the
development of intimate relationships.

     Both  considerations  are  in  agreement   with   the
inhibition of  intimate  relationships,  and  so  seem  to
support each other.   If two reasons are in agreement that
it is dangerous to be involved in intimate  relationships,
they must add up to a sound conclusion.  Yet, the logic is
faulty because one of the premises is that one should  not
get involved in intimate relationships because within them
you  might  become  dedicated  to  improper  (impersonal?)
goals.

     Note  that  the outcome of the perverted logic is the
dedication to improper (impersonal?) goals, giving the lie
to  the  integrity  of  the  reasoning which says that you
should  not get involved in intimate relationships because
within them you might become dedicated to improper  goals.
Thus, in the end, there is only one reason for not getting
involved in intimate relationships,  the reason being that
they  get  in  the way of the achievement  of pre-selected
goals.   The fear that intimate relationships might result
in the  imposition  of inappropriate goals---is a means to
protect the subterfuge by which  inappropriate  goals  are
imposed by the use of the perverse logic.

                                                                                                                               
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