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%TECHNIQUES FOR AVOIDING EXCOMMUNICATION 800108
Many attempted techniques for avoiding
excommunication tend to generate alienation; i.e., they
contribute in their own technical way to further breakdown
of communication. For this reason people who deliberately
use excommunication as a technique by which to manipulate
people tend to generate alienation which it is difficult
to avoid. There are no effective technical defenses
against excommunicative technologies.
To minimize instances of excommunication non-
technical ways of coping must be followed. Following non-
technical ways may guide people in the use of some
techniques to facilitate dialogue, but such guidance will
not originate in technical considerations. Rarely is the
promotion of open dialogue regarded as of ultimate
concern. Yet, it is helpful to view much human behavior
as at root an effort to avoid excommunication. The
avoidance of excommunication appears to be an ultimate
concern, even though the promotion of dialogue does not.
Even though the two are very much alike, they do not
appear to be so in everyday life.
To avoid excommunicative guilt people will be
dishonest about their feelings, pretending to feel quite
differently than they do. That they are trying to avoid
excommunication is obscured by the resultant break-down in
dialogue---a form of excommunication. The excommunicative
effect is clearly not the intended effect. To avoid
excommunication people will fail to be open with
judgmental self-righteous people; and thereby
excommunicate themselves from the people who might
excommunicate them if they were open. It is a double bind
which obscures the motives and the effects. The
participants in the double bind seek to develop coping
techniques to deal with their problem, and end up
developing techniques which intensify the problem.
The way to minimize excommunication is to engage in
efforts to create contexts within which people are granted
unquestioned rights to be safely open and honest in
dialogue, contexts in which honesty may never leads to
punishment. Such efforts will be effective if they are not
selfish efforts to avoid excommunication. At the same
time it is essential that those engaged in them survive
excommunicative acts.
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