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                               %SEXUAL EXPECTATIONS 780719

     Many,   if  not  most,  of  our  sexual  expectations
originate in our culture.   We learn from our culture both
perverse  and humane sexual expectations.   We are  taught
what  to expect upon the violation of arbitrary  taboos---
and   often  those  expectations  become   self-fulfilling
prophecies.   We are taught how we should expect others to
treat us if we act in certain ways, and oblige in behaving
in  that  way  toward  others  when  they  behave  in  the
specified   ways.     To  the  extent  that   our   sexual
expectations  are  exclusively  those interjected  by  our
culture, we fail to fulfill our unique natures---we become
but expressions of  the  past confused group consciousness
of  our  ancestors.     Traditional consensual perceptions
serve some purposes,  but they tend not to be creative and
adaptive to new situations.

     Cultural   sexual  expectations  become  particularly
perverse  within an objective-casual society---for therein
there  is a tendency to objectify the cultural  norms  and
regard them as objectively determined by factors which are
beyond  cultural change.   Objective analysis is likely to
be   used   within  biased  studies  to  verify   cultural
perspectives.     The   researchers  are  likely   to   be
objective/analytic oriented---to the exclusion of personal
concerns,  and likely to be emotionally  immature.   Their
approach  to  sexuality  is  likely to be  from  within  a
modality  which  will  prevent them  from  perceiving  and
respecting    essential   aspects   of   intimate    human
relationships.   They are likely to project their immature
biases upon the subjects of their objective analysis---and
find  only  what   they  expected  to find.   It  is  very
difficult  to  transcend  our  deeply  ingrained  cultural
expectations,  collusions, myths, etc.   Asking  genuinely
new   questions   and  transcending   traditional   sexual
expectations---is  usually  threatening  to  people   with
considerable power.

     The  transcendence  of perverse  sexual  expectations
will occur only when  we  transcend the objectification of
emotions and subjective realities.   We need to learn  how
to    accept   various   modes   of   relationships    and
consciousness,   not demanding that all people conform  to
one "correct" modality.

                                                                                                                               
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