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                                %KNOWING YOUR LOVER 761128

     Knowing  your lover is a social process as well as  a
personal  one.   If you know your lover only  in  private,
your knowledge is incomplete.   For your lover is not only
a  private person.   No person is only private in  nature,
essentially private.  Each  person's  identity  is in part
defined  by  public  behavior  and public identity.   Each
person's identity is in part defined by familial behavior.
To  fully  know  your lover you need to know  the  various
aspects of your lover's life.   If any aspect of that life
which is central to it is unknown to you,  your  knowledge
is incomplete.

     Incomplete  knowledge may be the result of  just  not
getting  around to learning  that which   might be  known.
There  is limited time.   Attention may wisely  have  been
directed  elsewhere.    On  the  other  hand,   incomplete
knowledge  may  be  the  result  of  some  blockage  which
prevents  learning about some aspect of your lover's life.
If  the blockage is firm,  and the aspect of your  lover's
life which is thereby blocked is an essential aspect, then
tension  is  very  likely  to be  present.    The  tension
originates in  the  need to know,  being  opposed  by  the
blockage.

     If  the blockage is accidental and readily removable,
then  the tension may be relieved relatively easily.    If
the  blockage  is of a rather tenacious  sort,   then  the
tension may be long-lived and undermine the fulfillment of
the relationship between you and your lover.

     It  is  difficult for lovers to have  purely  private
relationships  and therein find fulfillment.   If  lovers'
relationships are purely private,  they cannot get to know
each  other  in  social  contexts,   and  therefore   full
knowledge of each other is blocked.  Social intolerance of
lovers'   presence  within their home settings  can  block
their full knowledge of each other.

     Knowing your lover is a social,  as well as a private
affair.                                                                                                                        
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