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%UNPREDICTABLE CAUSE EFFECT CONSEQUENCES CHAOS LOVE 990612
When the outcomes of our behaviors bring us pleasure,
enjoyment, joy, fulfillment, etc. --- we commonly seek to
duplicate the behaviors, outcomes, pleasure, enjoyment,
joy and fulfillment.
When the outcomes of our behaviors bring us pain,
disease, conflict, tragedies, etc. --- we naturally may
seek to avoid the behaviors, outcomes, pain, diseases,
conflicts, tragedies, etc.
Often in these efforts we are not successful. Why? In
part because in human relationships it is never possible
to duplicate exactly a previous situation. Consider the
following factors which apply to efforts to duplicate
and/or avoid a course of events:
1. Once something has happened the first time --- in
the future it cannot happen again for the first time;
the history of the first time "occurrence" makes
any future "occurrence" different in that it will be
the "second", "third", etc. "occurrence." Memories of
the past change the future.
2. We cannot control exactly the details of any
course of human relationships. Small differences in an
early part of a human relationship can make great
differences in a latter part. This is amply illustrated
in objective processes described with "chaos theory" ---
so called because the details of such processes cannot be
predicted long into the future.
3. The more people there are who have become
involved in the course of some human relationships --- the
more complex the overall relationships become. The longer
the duration of a pattern of human relationships is ---
the more people there are who are participants in the
pattern --- and the less predictable is the future course
of events. The larger is the group of people who
initiate a pattern of human relationships --- the more
complex and the less predictable is the outcome.
4. The more people who have been involved in a
"first" occurrence of a pattern of personal relationships
--- the more difficult it will be to "duplicate" the
circumstances on the occasion of trying to repeat the
pattern at a future time.
5. The greater are the efforts of some people to
control the details of a pattern of relationships --- the
more resentment there is likely to be on the part of other
people who do not appreciate being controlled. People who
may have appreciated the first occasion may well resent
any effort by anybody to control things so as to try to
duplicate the first occasion.
We need to remember that the above considerations
apply both to efforts to duplicate a course of events ---
and to efforts to avoid a previously tragic course of
events. Perfect control over outcomes is ultimately
impossible in the long term.
The above considerations taken together imply that it
is futile to attempt to use any formula or set of rules
and regulations to:
1. Assure success in any human effort.
or
2. Assure the avoidance of tragedy in any effort.
It is likely to be fruitful to agree on a coherent
set of basic principles, ideals, values and attitudes ---
which will help participants in any effort to minimize the
alienation, estrangement, resentment, insecurity,
distrust, etc. which is likely to follow from any failure
to get things to work out "rightly" for the point of view
of persons affected. In the absence of such
agreements "failures" are likely to lead to personal and
communal disintegration.
People who are preoccupied with issues of control in
efforts to achieve perfection in outcomes --- are UNLIKELY
to agree on the importance of any coherent set of
basic principles, ideals, values and attitudes ---
which will help participants in any effort to
minimize the alienation, estrangement, resentment,
insecurity, distrust, etc. --- which is likely to
follow from any failure to get things to work out
"rightly" from the point of view of all persons affected.
(c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
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