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%DYSFUNCTIONAL INTIMATE SEXUAL RELATIONS ABUSE SIN+990521
%ESCAPE LIBERATE DOUBLE BIND ADDICTION CODEPENDENT+990521
%BALANCED MUTUAL EXTREME DEVIL IGNORANCE CONFUSION 990521
It is far easier to become entrapped in a
dysfunctional intimate sexual relationship --- than it is
to escape from the traps of dysfunctional intimate sexual
relationships. The following contribute to making this
be so:
1. People who are relatively more ignorant, confused
and/or mis-informed --- can be made more vulnerable by
people who are less ignorant, confused and/or mis-
informed.
2. People who are relatively more powerful,
respected and/or knowledgeable --- have the advantage
in trying to manipulate people who are relatively
less powerful, respected and/or knowledgeable.
3. Fulfillment in intimate sexual relationships
entails becoming willing to trust another person and let
go of inhibitions --- to become vulnerable and take risks.
4. True security is enjoyed as the freedom to be
safely vulnerable --- and is not achieved through the
elimination of all forms of vulnerability.
5. The opportunities for relational manipulations
are increased by keeping people of some particular gender,
race, or persuasion ignorant, confused and/or mis-informed
about human sexuality.
6. People who are in formal and or informal
positions of leadership, dominance, and judgment have the
advantage over people who are not in such positions ---
when it comes to using guilt, shame and ignorance as tools
of manipulation and control.
7. People who are preoccupied with issues of control
have the advantage over simple child-like and trusting
people --- when it comes to manipulating the latter
people's guilt, shame and ignorance.
8. Various forms of addiction and codependence are
intimately inter-related with various forms of
dysfunctional friendships, intimacy and sexuality --- as
described by Kasal in her book "Women, Sex and Addiction."
To help our communities and their members to
transcend dysfunctional intimate and sexual relationships
we need to recognize, name, describe and deal with the
above factors which contribute to the conception and
growth of such relationships. People of power who are
preoccupied with issues of good/evil, law/order, control
and/or conformal morality are unlikely to welcome such
transcendence --- for Love and Truth both challenge their
grips on principalities, powers, controls, honors and
respectability. We need to be careful about whom we
thoughtlessly respect, honor, support and react to.
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