This-essay is a9903261.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %INTEGRATIVE COMMUNITY PERSON FALSE INTIMACY SEX+990326 %RECOGNIZE DESCRIBE POINTING TOWARD PERSPECTIVE 990326 Within truly integrative communities there are many healthy people who recognize, name, describe, point to and deal prudently with occasions of "false intimacy" which are suggested below: 1. Manipulative people PRETEND TO BE WILLING TO SHARE WITHIN THE CONTEXT OF OPEN AND HONEST RELATIONSHIPS WHICH ENTAIL MUTUAL VULNERABILITY --- yet are really seeking to gain the manipulative advantage of being invulnerable while coercing another person into a position of unbalanced vulnerability. 2. PRETENDING TO BE INVOLVED IN OPEN AND HONEST COURTSHIP leading to a healthy long-term friendship of mutual respect, support, honor, assistance, and comfort --- so as to maneuver another person into a position of vulnerability and insecurity which will be advantageous to the manipulator. 3. BEING PREOCCUPIED WITH ISSUES OF CONTROL IN THE HOPE OF GAINING MANIPULATIVE POWERS/ADVANTAGES --- while pretending to be working to promote the welfare of the community as a whole --- with integrity, honor, well- being, peace and shalom. 4. BEING SUSPICIOUS OF PEOPLE WHO ARE TRULY ENJOYING the freedom to be safely vulnerable within relationships of mutual respect, honor, support, comfort, assistance and integration --- due to fears that they will expose essential collusive games of mutual self deception. 5. SEEKING TO ASSURE THAT ALL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS ARE PROPERLY CONTROLLED --- to make them conform to standard forms of respected transactions and inter-actions between proper people. 6. GOING THROUGH THE PHYSICAL MOTIONS OF APPEARING to be involved in integrative inter-personal relationships --- when in spirit all the exercises are for the purpose of appearing to be proper, right, righteous, respectable, secure, pure, better, and invulnerable. 7. PROMOTING PARALYSIS THROUGH PREOCCUPATIONS WITH: perfection, purity, propriety, competition, correctness, conformity, appearances, reputations, success, achievements, failures, mistakes, faults, blunders, etc. 8. FEARING TO LET GO TO the promptings of Holy Spirit --- because the promptings of Holy Spirit entail doing risky new things and being transformed, reconciled, and involved in conflict resolution --- wherein vulnerability is shared openly and honestly within safe contexts which are built together through cooperative efforts. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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