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%ELIMINATE BAD DEVIL DEFECT IMPERFECT DIFFERENCES+990313
%RESOLVE CONFLICTS PEACEMAKER CONFLICT CONTEST SIN 990313
Some insecure people are distressed by differences
between human beings. They personally regard differences
as signs of defects, imperfections, failures,
disloyalty, etc. Such insecure people are often
dedicated to the elimination of differences and/or of
people who are the incarnation of differences. Such
insecure people are often intolerant of differences. and
of people who tolerate differences.
Conflicts between different people are not inevitable
manifestations of their differences. Conflicts between
different people are manifestations of the insecurity of
insecure people who are distressed by differences between
people. Insecure people cannot believe that differences
between people were created by God for good; to serve as
the foundations of creative cooperative work together.
Insecure people feel secure only with people who will not
differ with them on how people should believe, feel,
think, desire, fear and behave --- with people who are NOT
DIFFERENT.
Insecure people do not truly seek to understand
people who are different --- because insecure people's
fears lead them to create and maintain alienative
relationships with people who are "different". True
conflict resolution is unthinkable for them --- for it is
easier for them to manage people who are confused,
misinformed, and thoughtless --- due to managed conflicts.
We need to learn to know and enjoy security as the
freedom to be safely vulnerable in intimate dialogue which
is open and honest; rather than regard security as being
rooted in our achievement of invulnerability. Only then
will be be able to build creatively upon our differences
--- and enjoy the sweet fruits of cooperatively
working together in ways which take advantage of our
differences.
Insecure people often seek to achieve security
through technologies of control --- which are designed to
make people who are different to appear to conform to
standard patterns of appearance. For such insecure people
it is appearances which count; not open and honest
dialogue within authentic personal relationships. They
focus upon rules, commandments, regulations,
prescriptions, proscriptions and other technologies of
control --- which are indifferent to individual
personal differences including people's different
personal: heredities, heritages, cultures, families,
experiences, abilities, fears, hopes, aspirations and
creative potentials.
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