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%ISSUES CONTROL DEDICATION COMMITMENT TABOO ALIEN+990312
%CHURCH SANCTUARY SAFE VULNERABILITY SECURITY LOVES 990312
People who are preoccupied with issues of control
often are be committed to defending taboos in alienative
ways --- when there are far more integrative ways to
address the dilemmas at hand. Their defense of taboos
often entail playing collusive games of mutual self
deception --- according to which there are no significant
alienative costs in their preoccupations with issues of
control. They do not take seriously the costs of:
1. Not being free to be safely vulnerable in
sanctuaries where people engage in open and honest
dialogue without fear of their vulnerability being taken
advantage of.
2. The loss of personal integrity due to
internalized blame, shame, guilt, condemnations,
fears, anxieties, and dis-ease.
3. The loss of communal integrity due to people
being dedicated to finding fault with each other ---
in contests to get-ahead of each other while seeking
"merit-point" advantages.
4. The loss of personal and communal integrity due
to formal and informal processes of ex-communication,
banishment, ostracism, exclusivity, self-righteousness and
arrogance.
5. The loss of personal and communal integrity due
to preoccupations with perfection and the elimination of
all that is imperfect.
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