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 %PRINCIPLES PRIORITIES GOALS DESIRES INTENTION SIN+990112          
   %CONFLICT RESOLUTION PEACEMAKING SHALOM LOVE WAR 990112                                           
                                                                                                                               
     In  our   efforts   to   minimize   our   discomfort,                                                            
embarrassment and inconvenience we often act in ways which      
move  boundaries between conflicting ideals,   values  and                                         
principles ---  so that the boundaries are outside our own                   
inner circle of friends and associates.   Such efforts may                                                                     
be comforting and convenient in the short term ---but such                                                                     
efforts  generate  inevitable long term conflicts  between                                              
the  groups  which  come to be  separated  by  the shifted                                                                     
boundaries   between  conflicting  ideals,    values   and                                         
principles.     We shift the boundaries from being  within                             
our  inner  circle  of  friends and  associates---to being                                                            
between  our  inner  circle and the inner circle of  other                                                            
people with whom  we are not familiar.    We  tighten  the                                                                    
various   inner  circles  in  ways  which  accentuate  the      
differences between inner  circles  and so accentuate  the                                     
conflicts  between inner circles.    People in contrasting                                              
inner  circles  become  less and less familiar  with  each                                                                     
other---and  so become more and more likely to engaged  in                                                               
disintegrative relationships with each other.    If we  do                                                              
not  engage in integrative relationships  with  people who                                                              
are  inside  other  inner circles ---  we become prone  to                                                               
engage in disintegrative relationships with such people.                                                              
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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