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The best and most integrative of our commandments,
guidelines and covenant texts --- helpfully call into
question the inadequacies of our immature and conflict-
ridden personal relationships.
The best and most integrative of our mature personal
relationships call into question the inadequacies of our
immature and conflict ridden: prescriptions,
proscriptions, rules, regulations, commandments,
guidelines and/or covenant texts.
There are serious hazards in worshiping what appear
to us as unimaginably wonderful and closer personal
relationships than we have ever known before --- without
balanced consideration of wisely respected commandments,
guidelines and covenant texts.
There are serious hazards in worshipping what come
and appear to as unimaginably perfect prescriptions,
proscriptions, rules, regulations, commandments,
guidelines and/or covenant texts --- without balanced
consideration of wisely respected mature/intimate personal
relationships which are not focused upon conformity of any
form.
People and communities of integrity manage to
maintain balances between high regard for the best they
know of prescriptions, proscriptions, rules, regulations,
commandments, guidelines and covenant texts on the one
hand ----- and the best they know of wisely respected
kinds of mature/intimate personal relationships which are
not focused upon conformity of any form.
People and communities that idolize their best laws,
without respect for the integrity of their most
integrative, mature and intimate personal relationships
--- thereby set in motion changes which lead to their
personal and communal disintegrations.
People and communities that idolize what they regard
as their best people and personal relationships ---
without respect for the integrity of their most
integrative, mature and helpful laws --- thereby set in
motion changes which lead to their personal and communal
disintegration.
The idolization of anything which humans have had a
part in conceiving and perfecting is bound to lead toward
personal and communal disintegration; for such idolization
entails disintegrative pride, arrogance, and collusive
games of mutual self deception.
Recently dysfunctional people/relationships that
have recently been liberated through the effective
functioning of helpful laws --- are prone to idolize the
best laws they know --- because they have learned about
the limitations of imperfect humans/relationships.
People/relationships that have recently idolized
good laws and recently been liberated through the works of
love (via integrative people/relationships) --- are prone
to idolize the best people/relationships they know ---
because they have learned about the limitations of
imperfect laws and judicial procedures.
Whether we regard the best laws/judiciaries or the
best people/relationships with uncritical respect ---
depends upon where we have most recently been severely
disappointed with the imperfections in them.
The best people/relationships embody wisdom in ways
which no laws can capture and deliver reliably to people
who are trapped because of dysfunctional people and
relationships.
The best laws/judiciaries can protect the poor, weak
and alienated from the pride, arrogance and
presumptuousness of dysfunctional people --- who in tragic
ways have come to have greater power than they know how to
use, or want to use, in integrative ways.
Imbalance and rigidity leads to disintegration.
Balance and flexibility are essential to personal and
communal integrity. Beware of unbalanced and rigid
people, relationships and laws.
Robust people, relationships and communities are
characterized by tolerance, balance, flexibility and
integrity --- rather than by extremism, fanaticism,
rigidity and exclusivity.
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