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%NAT BEAM LUMBER EYES SETTING PRIORITIES RELATIVE+970519
%FINDING COMMON GROUND TRUST CONFLICT RESOLUTION+970519
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%BALANCE PERSPECTIVE INTEGRATE HEALTHY GROW CHANGE 970519
To find common ground with people we do not fully
trust--- we need to focus upon setting priorities, rather
than on finding gnats in each other's eyes.
If we are preoccupied with imperfections in other
people (to make ourselves look good in our own eyes) we
are likely to lose perspective in regards to the relative
importances of whatever we have become most concerned
about --- in comparison to whatever we have come to ignore
and neglect. We need other people's insights to help us
to restore balance --- when we become unbalanced and
fanatical. There may in fact be a beam in each of our own
eyes; of lumber, not of light!
To find common ground we need to devise ways to
cooperate with people who are different --- to sort out
positive affirmations and find which affirmations the
largest fraction of cooperative people regard as most
important. This cannot be done using only the standard
parliamentary procedures --- for they do not facilitate
setting priorities. Standard parliamentary-rules-of-order
facilitate orderly dichotomous thinking and contentious
debates; but they do not facilitate sorting out high
priority suggestions from a long list of different
suggestions which differ in relative importance.
To find common ground, a group of people need to be
able to simultaneously:
(1) Focus upon the relative importances among
positive suggestions,
AND
(2) Determine what percentage of all participants are
supportive of various positive suggestions.
Rarely do deliberative assemblies seek to do both
things simultaneously. Usually contentious members of
assemblies seek to discredit each other's suggestions by
seeking to focus attention on imperfections (however small
they may be) in each others' suggestions. At the same
time contentious members of assemblies seek to heap praise
upon the merits (however small they may be) in their own
suggestions --- considered in isolation from others which
are in competition for priority attention.
Members of assemblies may facilitate finding common
ground by shifting attention away from finding
imperfections in each others' suggestions --- to
discussing and voting upon the RELATIVE IMPORTANCE of
numerous suggestions regarding what few concerns should be
granted priority status; and which many concerns should
be relegated to low priority status. Balance in these
matters is usually achieved only if balance is sought.
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