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%BLESSED PEACEMAKERS CONFLICT CLARIFIERS RESOLUTION+950511
%OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE LIGHT VIOLENCE WAR ADDICT SIN+950511
  %PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY ANALYZE WHOLE I-THOU 950511

     During  our  lives  we meet peacemakers  who  clarify
conflicts and help to resolve conflicts.

     During  our  lives  we also meet people  who  confuse
conflicts and behave in ways which aggravate conflicts.

     If  we  want  to  enjoy both  personal  and  communal
integrity   we   need  to  recognize  which   people   are
peacemakers,   and  and which people are conflict  makers.
We  need  to  ally ourselves with peacemakers  in  helping
yet  others  to recognize the  advantages  of   being  and
helping peacemakers,  and  the disadvantages of being  and
helping conflict makers.

     Conflict   resolution  is  difficult  if  we  do  not
recognize  the  nature  of  the  conflict,   the   primary
participants,  the roots of the conflict:  the what,  who,
why, where, how, when and consequences of the conflict.

     WHAT: To resolve conflict  we  need to be clear about
what ideals, values and goals are in conflict.

     WHO:  We  need  to  recognize  which  persons are the
incarnations of the ideals,  values and goals which are in
conflict.

     WHY:   We  need  to  recognize  antecedent    events,
circumstances,  injustices, mistakes, failures,  emotions,
etc. which play central roles in the conflict.

     WHERE:  We  need to recognize in what  circumstances,
environments,  settings, gatherings, and dramatic settings
the conflicts are most intense.

     HOW:  We  need  to  recognize how the  conflicts  are
expressed  tacitly,  overtly,  verbally,  in  action,   in
presence, in being, etc.

     WHEN:  We   need  to  note  the  times  according  to
calendar,   clock,   and  psychological  sense  when   the
conflicts are most active.

     There  is  a  sense in which we need to  analyze  our
conflicts  in  order to resolve them;  yet we need  to  be
sensitive  to  the  integrity of the  whole  within  which
conflict   occurs---and   not  analyze  the conflict   out
of  existence in the process of  taking  apart  the  whole
which is in conflict.

     In  clarifying conflicts we need to  recognize  which
ideals, values and goals are allied with each other in the
dynamic  processes of the conflict;  and which people  who
are  the incarnations of allied ideals,  values and  goals
are allied with each other.    Are all the ideals,  values
and  goals which are allied together of such  a  character
that  they  promote and facilitate personal  and  communal
integrity?   Do some of the ideals, values and goals quite
often  promote and facilitate disintegration,  dishonesty,
deception,  coercion,  personal manipulations,   violence,
alienation,    estrangement,    ignorance,    intolerance,
judgmentalism, condemnations, and ex-communications?

     Peacemakers  are worthy of respect because  of  their
integrity and how they promote both personal and  communal
integrity.  Often peacemakers are crucified because of how
by  their being and doing they promote both  personal  and
communal  integrity;   for people who  promote  conflicts,
addictive   relationships,   and  codependent  support  of
addictive   relationships---cannot  tolerate   peacemakers
who  expose  dishonesty and disintegration in the light of
open and honest dialogue.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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