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     When  we  are  under tension,  in  contention  or  in
conflict we are:

     Being pulled in contrary directions.
     Seeking to fulfill contradictory conditions.
     Trying to appear like opposites.
     Trying to deny and affirm the same thing.
     Fearing and desiring the same thing.
     Dedicated to conflicting ideals/values/goals.
     Torn by conflicting desires/fears/needs.
     Trying to satisfy opposing demands/requirements.

     In    each    case  pointed  to   above---there   are
unresolved  conflicts  within us,  between us and  others,
between  us  and communal  expectations,   and/or  between
others in ways which involve us.

     Tension,   contention  and conflict sap us of  energy
which we might otherwise be able to direct to constructive
efforts.

     Tension,     contention  and   conflict---when   they
continue unresolved---promote confusion,  chaos, dis-order
and decay.

     In order to enjoy wholeness, integrity, peace, shalom
and  health we need to work in cooperative ways to resolve
conflicts rather than to "win" conflicts.

     When  people "win"  conflicts---the losers perpetuate
the conflicts in overt and covert ways.

     When   people   "win"   conflicts---the losers   have
been shown  that violence "pays"  and they seek to  follow
the example of those who "won"  the conflict;  so conflict
continues.

     Those   who   prevail  in  a  war  demonstrate   that
preparations  for  war  "pay"---and  so  encourage  future
preparations  for  war by those who lost.   Those who paid
with their lives are honored by those who prevailed in the
war;  and such honor confuses the survivors regarding  the
integrity of war.

     Wars  are  demonstrations of the  lack  of  integrity
within and among the participants in wars.

     Wars  perpetuate  the  lack of integrity  within  and
among  the  participants in war;  for they perpetuate  the
conflicts which occasion war.

     Wars demonstrate the lack of integrity in the ideals,
values   and  goals which lead people  into  war---through
the perpetuation of their conflicts.

     Addicts,     codependent   supporters    and    other
participants  in collusive games of mutual self  deception
work  tacitly  and  overtly  together  to  perpetuate  the
ideals,   values  and  goals which lead  people  into  war
through  the perpetuation of conflicts.   They regard  the
resolution of conflicts as a violation of their ideals and
values---and   a   sacrifice  of  their   ultimate   goals
of successful domination.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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