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 %ARTICULATE ALIENATIVE IMPLICIT TACIT COMMANDMENTS 941208

     Often  within collusive/addictive communities  people
operate  in terms of commandments which are only  implicit
or  tacit;    never being overtly articulated in  explicit
ways  with  an   explicit  logic---because  they  are  not
defensible commandments.   Such commandments often promote
personal   and   communal   disintegration   through   the
generation of needless alienation.

     It  is  often  helpful  to  clearly  articulate   the
provisions   of  alienative  commandments  in   order   to
encourage   people  to  see  clearly  the   disintegrative
consequences of offering implicit or tacit support for the
alienative commandments.  There will, of course, be people
who  will  object  to  the revelation  of  the  alienative
consequences of taking such commandments seriously.   Such
people are supporters  of the collusive/addictive patterns
of behavior in the community they cannot tolerate  honesty
which exposes their own dishonesty.

     What are some of the tacit/implicit commandments? The
following   articulations   are   suggestive,    but   not
exhaustive.

     1.  Do not talk about addictions of family members.

     2.  Do not talk about sexual abuse in the family.

     3.  Do not reveal any family "secrets" to anybody.

     4.  Always be objective in all that you do.

     5.  We are better than "they" are.

     6.  God  is on our side,  "they"  are on the devil's.

     7.  "They" have no right to exist and offend us.

     8.  We must eliminate evil from the face of earth.

     9.  God has commissioned us to fulfill His Will.

    10.  We can do no wrong.

    11.  People who disagree with us are evil.

    12.  We can never trust our enemies.

    13.  Conflict resolution is the work of the devil.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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