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 %INSECURITY DEFENSIVE REFLEXIVE RELATIONSHIPS LOVE+941207
%TECHNOCRATIC ACHIEVEMENT WAR PEACE VIOLENT ADDICTS 941207

     Insecurity  and  defensiveness are  inter-related  in
ways which  are  not   always   obvious  within  reflexive
relationships.

     There  are  both  objective and reflexive aspects  of
insecurity, defensiveness and reflexive relationships; six
aspects   (at  least)   because  there  are  two   aspects
(objective    and   reflexive)     for  each   of    three
realities   (insecurity,   defensiveness,   and  reflexive
relationships).

     1-Obj.  The   objective   aspects   of   defensive
relationships are  made  evident by objective weapons such
as:   guns, bombs, and delivery devices such as launchers,
airplanes,   and  rockets;   and the objective destruction
which they create.

     2-Obj.  The  objective aspects of insecurity are  not
that  obviously  different from the objective  aspects  of
defensiveness;   for  they are reflections of  each  other
which echo back and forth with amplification unless  there
is conflict resolution.   Objective defensive actions  are
often  viewed as offensive  actions by in  secure  people,
and engender additional  reflexive  insecurity---which  is
expressed    in    reciprocal  objective defensive  action
which  are   experienced   as    offensive    actions. The
objective  escalation  of objective  reactions  which  are
mirror-image-echoes-of-each-other,   are   the   objective
aspects of both insecurity and of defensiveness.

     3-Obj.  The    objective    aspects   of    reflexive
relationships are to be seen in the objective echoing back
and forth of the objective mirror-images of  each  other's
objective insecurity and  objective defensiveness.    Each
echo   and   each   reflected  image  is   the   objective
manifestation    of   the   reflexive   aspect   of    the
disintegrating objective relationship between the  peoples
in conflict.

     1-Sub.  The reflexive aspects of defensiveness may be
known existentially by each person who is  involved in the
process  of the  deterioration  of  personal  and communal
integrity---but  they can be honestly shared  with  others
only within contexts where it is safe to take the risks of
being  vulnerable  in  being  true  to  self  and  others.
However, within insecure/defensive contexts it is not safe
to  take the risks of  being  vulnerable  in being true to
self and others---and the reflexive  aspects  of defensive
relationships are NOT KNOWN  existentially  by each person
who is involved  in  the  process  of the deterioration of
personal and communal integrity.

     2.-Sub.  The reflexive aspects of insecurity may also
be  known existentially by each person who is involved  in
the process of the deterioration  of personal and communal
integrity---under the same constraints noted in regards to
the reflexive aspects of defensiveness above. How  do they
differ?    Not  in  obvious  ways  which  are  objectively
verifiable.   The reflexive  aspects  of defensiveness and
insecurity are  mirror-image echoes  of each other just as
the objective aspects of defensiveness and  insecurity are
mirror-image echoes of each other.

     Defensiveness is a  reflexive  response to insecurity
which  grows  in the absence of true love and  so  in  the
absence of the gifts of true love---which are gifts of the
freedom  to  be safely vulnerable in taking the  risks  of
being   true   to  self   and   others   within   intimate
relationships.  Defensiveness and insecurity are dis-eases
which  are  mirror image echoes of each other,  and elicit
each other in reflexive ways.   Defensive behaviors  which
are perceived to be offensive elicit reflexive insecurity-
--which  in  turn  elicits  defensive behaviors which  are
bound to be perceived as offensive in nature.

     3-Sub.  The reflexive aspects of relationships can be
seen  in the  reflexive  echoing back  and  forth  of  the
reflexive   mirror-images  of  each  other's     reflexive
insecurity  and   reflexive defensiveness.   Each echo and
image is the reflexive manifestation of the disintegrating
reflexive relationship between the peoples in conflict.

     The  reflexive  realities which  motivate  and  drive
their objective  manifestations  are not clearly perceived
by  people who are insecure and  compulsively  preoccupied
with   objective  efforts  to  achieve  security   through
defensive   technologies  and   manipulations.     Usually
defensive  technocratic efforts  to achieve  security  are
experienced  existentially by  the victim-participants  as
offensive   in   nature.    Conflict  resolution   appears
offensive   because  conflict  resolution  is  likely   to
undermine    efforts   to   achieve    security    through
sophisticated  technocratic  means.   Peace  and  security
cannot  be  imagined,   envisioned  or enjoyed so long  as
people continue to be fixated upon and addicted to violent
defensive  technologies regarded as the means to achieving
security.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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