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 %LEGALIST CONTROL THOUGHT EMOTION EXPRESS BEHAVIOR+940312
  %REFLEXIVE INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATE KNOW 940312

     Legalists  are  preoccupied with issues  of  control:
who  is   and  who  is not  in  control,    who  is  being
controlled  by whom,   controlled  according  to  what set
of    rules    and  commandments,     according  to   what
prescriptions of  rewards and punishments, etc.

     Legalistic   are   preoccupied  with  temptations  to
transcend   controls  as well with actually  breaking  out
of patterns  of  control;   for  legalists  are engaged in
collusive games  of  mutual  self deception regarding what
and  how much is  really being controlled.    Is  it  only
appearances  which  are being controlled?   Are  thoughts,
emotions,  desires and responses really being  controlled?
Or, are people only pretending   to  be  under  control---
in keeping  with  the legalists' collusive games of mutual
self deception?

     To   merit   respect legalists  must   believe   that
they really are in  control,   not just appearing to be in
control of:  thoughts,  emotions,  desires and  responses.
Temptations  and   yielding  to temptations must be  under
control---else  the  legalists'   game is a  futile  game,
which it must  not be.

     When   desires   are  proscribed,   it is  not   only
the fulfillment  of  the  desires which is  proscribed  by
the legalistic  scribes:    the  enjoyment of the  desires
is  proscribed,    the  consideration  of  the  desires is
proscribed,  and talking about the desires is  proscribed.
Openness   and  honesty  about  proscribed   desires   are
proscribed  as  well   as the  fulfillment of the desires.
Legalists know  that   to truly be in control of behaviors
they  must truly be  in control of not only desires,   but
also  of the enjoyment  of:   desires,   consideration  of
desires,   openness and honesty about  desires---they must
all be  under control in  order  for behaviors to be truly
under control.

     The  down-fall of the legalists is that to succeed in
their   systematic   program  of  control, they   must use
dishonesty   as  a  manipulative tool---and so they cannot
be truly  in  control---to the extent and in the ways that
they feel  that  they  must  pretend  to   be  in control.
They  prescribe that people be truly in control  of  their
desires, thoughts  and  considerations --- in keeping with
legalists'    prescriptions   and   proscriptions.    They
prescribe   that  the enjoyment of desires is just as  bad
as  actively  seeking   to fulfill  the   desires  through
decisions and  actions;   and proscribe rebellious honesty
in  the face of their legalistic efforts to be dishonestly
in  control through  their collusive games of  mutual self
deception.    Then---they demand that nobody reveal  their
dishonesty,  hypocrisy,   and futility;   and pretend that
they are good people  destined for heaven,  and that those
people   of   integrity  who  transcend   the   legalists'
"goodness"   are  evil  people who are destined for  hell.
Truly  there  will  be  a revolution  in the  ordering  of
perceptions wherever the truth  is  known and shared  with
integrity  within communities  where  the gift of security
is known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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