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      %FIRST CONTEXT COMMUNITY ACCEPT DIALOGUE GIFT+940217
 %SECURITY DEFENSE MUTUAL UNDERSTAND RECONCILE FREE 940217

     Which   best  comes  first:   contexts  conducive  to
exchanging  gifts of security known as the freedom  to  be
safely venerable;  or individually achieving acceptability
on the basis of personal attitudes,  beliefs, convictions,
behaviors and appearances.

     Does  working individually to  achieve  acceptability
ENGENDER   contexts  conducive  to   exchanging  gifts  of
security known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable? Not
in  most  people's experience---because  the  efforts  are
misguided---rather than because the efforts are not made.

     Working to  create  contexts  conducive to exchanging
gifts  of  security  known as the  freedom  to  be  safely
vulnerable  ENGENDER occasions of acceptance into personal
intimate dialogue,   mutual understanding, reconciliation,
friendship,  healing,  health,  personal integrity,    and
communal integrity.  Tragically, such work does not  occur
often enough ---   because  many of our efforts are  often
misguided.

     We  need to focus our attention upon creating  humane
contexts within which personal  and communal integrity are
promoted by unconditional  acceptance  of imperfect people
into  imperfect  open  and  honest dialogue;  rather  than
focus  our attention upon perfecting ourselves  so that we
will be acceptable in terms of the  demands for conformity
often made by imperfect communities.

     Imperfect   communities  often assume a  person    is
not acceptable until  proven otherwise;  and that imposing
pre-conditions  for acceptance will  encourage and  enable
self-perfection,    and  so  promote  the  achievement  of
conformal acceptability.

     Humane  communities  assume that an imperfect  person
will  be encouraged to  grow  into  a person  of  personal
integrity    within   an   integrative   community   which
unconditionally accepts the imperfect person into open and
honest  dialogue  without  pre-conditions.  That  makes  a
helpful difference.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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