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                 %FULFILLMENT SATISFACTION DEFERRAL+930704
             %VERBAL TOOL VIOLENCE COERCION CONTROL+930704
           %WEAPON CLUB BOW ARROW GUN BOMB AIRPLANE+930704
      %RULE LAW REGULATION INJUNCTION THREAT REJECT 930704

     Human violence of each kind entails the violation of:
(1)  some kind of personal or communal integrity, (2)  the
abuse of some means/tools of manipulation, (3) one or more
victims of violence,  (4)  one or more perpetuators of the
violence, (5)  and one or more bystanders who in some ways
are  affected  by  and/or  affect  the  violence  and  its
consequences.

     To  respond  creatively  to  human  violence  and  so
promote greater  personal  and  communal  integrity  often
requires that we  clarify  each of  the  above  aspects of
human  violence  and the degrees to which  the  boundaries
between them are in some cases clear and well defined; and
in other cases fuzzy and/or not well defined.

     The victim(s)  of violence are often at the same time
the perpetuators of the violence and/or bystanders to  the
violence.    The  bystanders  to violence  are  often  the
victims  of  being spectators to overt violence  and  also
perpetuators of the overt violence by taking no actions to
help  their community resolve the hidden  conflicts  which
engender the overt violence.  The apparent perpetuators of
overt  violence  are  often  just  expressing  openly  and
honestly the conflicts which the bystanders and victims of
the  violence  are  trying  very hard to  pretend  out  of
existence.    Roles  in  violence are often  not  clear in
reality or in overt definition.

     The  kind  of human integrity which  is  violated  in
violence  is often not clear or well  defined---especially
from the point of view of the perpetuators of the violence
whose  initial violence often take the form of  pretending
that  there is not integrity present.   In their view  the
integrity which they violate is intimately associated with
the   essence  of  evil,   because  they  experience  that
integrity  as  a threat to their own  collusive  games  of
mutual  self deception.   Those dishonest games enable the
overt  violence and so bystanders who do not honestly deal
with  those  collusive  games  of  mutual  self  deception
through  neglect  become participants in  those  collusive
games which enable the overt violence.   We need  honestly
to  clarify  the ways in which various kinds of  integrity
are complementary to each other, even as we and others are
perceiving  them  to be in conflict with each other.    By
honestly  doing  so we can work to reduce violence and  so
work to promote our personal and communal integrity.

     The  apparent  perpetuators  of  overt  violence  are
usually the victims of their own violence far more than is
recognized.    We  cannot violate any integrity  which  is
present   within  our  community  without  thereby   doing
violence  to  the communal integrity upon  which  our  own
personal  integrity depends in very profound ways.   We do
violence  to  our  own  communal integrity  when  we  draw
exclusive  boundaries  around some limited  parts  of  our
whole  community,   exclude  some portions  of  our  whole
community and so regard it as expendable,  excommunicable,
and appropriately subjected to violence.   Perpetuators of
violence  are  thus always victims of the  violence  which
they perpetuate.

     Clubs,  knives, swords, guns, bows and arrows,  guns,
airplanes,   bombs,  and missiles are commonly  recognized
means  which  are abused in the perpetuation of  violence.
Means  which  are  often  abused in  the  perpetuation  of
violence,  but which are often not recognized as tools  of
violence include:  words,  language,  rules,  regulations,
prohibitions,   prescriptions,  laws,  moral  and  ethical
codes,  verbal threats,  verbal excommunications,  curses,
etc.    All such abuses engender alienations which  entail
doing violence to healthy patterns of affection, intimacy,
honesty,   dialogue,   listening and sharing  of  personal
experiences,  perceptions and emotions.   We need to  deal
openly  and  honestly with each kind of violence and  with
the  disintegration  which it  engenders---even  when  the
means  which are abused are usually associated  with  very
respectable   patterns  of  behavior  which   often   play
supportive  roles  in  collusive  games  of  mutual   self
deception.   Such open and honest dealing with violence is
not  always going to be appreciated by those people  whose
powerful  collusive  games of mutual self  deceptions  are
exposed  and  revealed to be  disintegrative  patterns  of
behavior.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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