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 %RESPOND REAL DISSONANCE IDEAL VALUE EXPECT DESIRE+930601
 %GUILT SHAME REJECT SHOULD TABOO PROHIBIT LAW LOVE 930601

     Our  personal  and communal integrity depend  greatly
upon how we respond to dissonance between reality and our:

              1.  Ideals/values
              2.  Wants/desires
              3.  Expectations
              4.  Anticipations
              5.  Should/nots
              6.  Images/dreams.
              7.  Visions/fantasies
              8.  Fears/apprehensions

     Dissonance  may lead to conflict which if  unresolved
turns violent in tragic ways.

     Dissonance  may  lead to descriptions of  reality  in
relation/comparison  to what generates the  dissonance--so
to understanding---and so to resolution of the dissonance.

     Dissonance  may  lead to commitments to  resolve  the
dissonance  to the best of ability,  and to learn to  live
with the residual dissonance to the best of ability.

     Dissonance  may occasion commitments to find  who  is
responsible and make them pay the price for having created
the  dissonance---so  leading many innocent people to  pay
the price of tragic violence for dissonance which  existed
only in the minds of a few manipulative people.

     Dissonance  may  occasion  the  person  feeling   the
dissonance   to  conclude  that  responsibility  for   the
dissonance is within the person; and so burden that person
with  the  guilt  and  shame associated  with  that  heavy
responsibility.

     We  and others will do well to examine carefully  and
talk   openly  and  honestly  about  our  experiences   of
dissonance,  so that we and they may respond to dissonance
in an informed and  wise  way.  This will not occur unless
we  give to and accept from each other the  gift  of  true
security  which  is  known as the  freedom  to  be  safely
vulnerable.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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