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              %ADULT PARENT CLAN FAMILY IDEAL VALUE 930517

     The child is by nature a copycat,  internalizing role
models seen in siblings,  parents, adults,  members of the
extended  family/clan,  teachers,  professors,  etc.   The
internalization  of role models goes hand in hand with the
internalization of ideals and values;  and vice versa.  In
such internalization of role models it is inevitable  that
there  be the internalization of  conflicts  between/among
the ideals, values and role models which are internalized.
The  child as a child may not recognize  the  internalized
conflicts   among/between   them;   through  lack  of   an
adequately  developed independent conception of a personal
adult and/or parent within.

     Through lack  of  knowledge and understanding,  we as
children  internalize  tragic conflicts among/between  the
dysfunctional role models whom we internalize.  As we grow
up  and  become adults and parents we need to do  work  to
return  to  our earlier internalizations and  resolve  the
conflicts between/among all the role models,  ideals,  and
values that we internalized with  inadequate knowledge and
understanding.  That work is cognitive,  intellectual, and
rational in character; as well as affective, emotional and
spiritual  in character.  It is dangerous to approach such
retrospective  work   with  an  exclusive,    dichotomous,
legalistic,  judgmental or similar set of perceptions  and
attitudes.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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