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%COPYCAT CHILD IMITATE ROLE MODEL INTERNAL CONFLICT+930517
  %WOUND VIOLENCE COLLUDE ADDICT DISHONEST CODEPEND 930517

     If  we  are  to heal from the wounds  which  we  have
suffered  in our past we need to focus upon considerations
which   promote  healing,    recovery,    reconciliations,
resolution  of conflicts and transcendence of  compulsions
which   nurse   the  wounds  of  the  past  as   cherished
possessions.

     Any  form of compulsive preoccupation with  the  past
wounds and with those who inflicted them will be likely to
block healing and recovery.  Recitations of how unjust the
infliction  of the wounds may have been,  will not promote
healing  and  recovery.  Attempts to even the  score,   no
matter  how  out  of balance the score may be,   will  not
promote healing and recovery.  Any efforts to pretend that
the  wounds were not inflicted,  were not real,  were  not
serious---will not promote healing and recovery.

     Pretending that our parents and family of origin were
more  perfect  than  they  really were,  will  not promote
recovery.   If  we were wounded by them because they  were
wounded  by their parents and family  of  origin---and  we
refuse to acknowledge the facts of our lives---then we and
our children will repeat/relive the tragic  scripts of our
parents, as long as we refuse to be honest about and learn
from their mistakes.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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