This is http://www.essayz.com/a9111092.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %OBJECTIVE ADDICTIVE CONTROL EMOTIONS AFFECTION JOY 911109 People who are addicted to the objective paradigm fear the exposure of the truth regarding the limitations of objectivity as a means to the discovery and control of meaningful truths. Involvement in meaningful emotional relationships within intimate personal relationships might expose the limitations of objectivity. Expressions of honest affection might elicit emotions which would expose the limitations of objectivity. If one does not know how to control desires and emotions, and feels that one must be in control at all times; then it is important to avoid situations which might activate desires and emotions which cannot be controlled. It is important to compulsively objective people that they stay out of touch with themselves and others; for to be in touch might begin a catastrophic process of activation of intimacy, affection, and emotional honesty which could not be controlled and so might, and respond to their own circumstances. They do not examine their own attitudes to see how helpful their own attitudes are. When problems are objectified there is a tendency to deal with the problems in objective ways; through object manipulation. People become the objects of manipulative procedures. Imperfections in one's own situation are projected onto the fabric of the community, and manipulative efforts are envisioned which might seem to promise to make one's own situation more tolerable. People who are encouraged to spend major portions of their time in objective procedures, analysis, controlled experimentation, and manipulations---to the exclusion of spending time developing healthy inter-personal relationships---are likely to deal with personal frustrations in ways patterned after the objective procedures, analysis, controlled experimentation, and manipulations upon which they have been encouraged to focus so much of their attention. People who are encouraged to strive for perfection in some compulsive ways are unlikely to be satisfied with their personal situation in life, and seek to perfect their situation in life. If they have spent little time developing healthy interpersonal relationships, they are likely to be frustrated with imperfections in their personal situations, and not know how to deal with them. Their frustrations are likely to be expressed in manipulative ways, especially if they have been encouraged to spend major portions of their time in objective procedures, analysis, controlled experimentation, and manipulations---to the exclusion of spending time developing healthy inter- personal relationships. People who are frustrated in the ways suggested above are likely to seek fixes for what is wrong in their lives, in the manner of addicts such as: workaholics, research-alcoholics, perfectionists, manipulators, sexaholics. Their foci of addictive behaviors may be very sophisticated and highly respected, and still be confused, dishonest, and dysfunctional. They are a danger to themselves and to those about them upon whom they may some day vent their anger and frustration. If members of a community do not feel secure in expressing their emotions openly and honestly; they are likely to keep their emotions pent up, until some day they explode in destructive ways when they try to dramatically change conditions around them, because they believe that the source of there problems reside out in the objective world. For these reasons it is important that within the context of colleges and universities where high standards of performance are held in high respect, there be healthy efforts made to create environments within which all members of the community feel secure and safe in being open and honest with each other about their experiences, perceptions, emotions, thoughts, and opinions. Only then can all members of the community be secure. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================