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 %EVIL GOOD HEALTHY GUILT SHAME COLLUSION CONFUSION 910829

     Not all guilt and/or shame are healthy.

     Often  in  the  collusive  society  with  addicts and
supportive  codependents,      guilt  and/or   shame   are
promoted   for manipulative  purposes.   In such instances
guilt  and/or shame are confusing,  not helpful; not based
upon an honest appraisal  of  the natural consequences  of
decisions  and actions  apart  from collusive conspiracies
to  manipulate persons'  perceptions,  feelings,  thoughts
and behaviors.

     Healthy   guilt  and/or  shame  pertain  to instances
where   a  person    has   willfully  done   violence   to
their   own,  another's,   or  their community's integrity
and  health.   Honestly     acknowledged    disintegrative
behavior     is  associated   with  healthy  guilt  and/or
shame.    Dishonestly manipulated  behavior  is associated
with  unhealthy   guilt and/or  shame.    In  the  society
which is behaving like  an addict/codependent,   unhealthy
guilt  and/or  shame are dis-integratively   promoted  for
manipulative    reasons   which   are    not      honestly
acknowledged.     The   manipulators  do   not  experience
healthy   guilt and/or shame because  of  their  unhealthy
manipulations of guilt and/or shame.   The  last statement
can be taken in two ways; and each way points to a truth.

     Fanatical   religious    leaders,     moralists   and
systematic  perfectionists  often  seek to control  others
through   the manipulation  of  guilt and/or shame;    and
experience   no healthy  guilt  and/or shame due to  their
evil  behavior. They  regard  their  evil  behavior to  be
good    behavior   because   they  presume  to  know   the
difference between  good and evil for other people.   They
have eaten of the Tree of the  Knowledge  of Good and Evil
which is in the midst  of the  Garden.  They do not regard
the essence of evil to be alienation;   thinking  that the
essence  of evil  is  non-conformity  to proper  standards
of  acceptability.     People  who  do   not   meet  their
standards   of  acceptability  are  rejected;    alienated
from  the "good"   people by the "good"  people  in  self-
righteous excommunications.   Such  "good"  people  create
evil through their alienations.  They  are behaving in the
manner of addicts/codependents engaged  in collusive games
of mutual self deception.  They have eyes, but do not see.
They have ears,  but do not hear. They have hearts,    but
do not feel.  They have minds,  but  do  not think.   They
have souls,  but do not pray.   They are  the living  dead
who  need to be reborn  through  resurrection into  a  new
life which is grounded in  Love  shaking  the  foundations
of old disintegrative being,   to  create  new integrative
beings,   with the courage to become  true  to themselves,
within open and honest relationships,   which are grounded
in being Truth within Love's Way of Life.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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