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%ADULT SCIENTIST PARENT CHILD FEEL EMOTION WAR GAME 900707

     Many  scientists  have over-developed  ADULTS  inside
them  who have taken over the role of being PARENTS to the
CHILDREN  who  are inside them.  Their PARENTS  of  origin
(through  active  and/or  passive emotional  abuse  and/or
absence)   discouraged them from being in touch with their
emotions,  their feelings,  the affective aspect of  whole
and healthy living.

     Many scientists do not feel that they have permission
to be in touch with those aspects of themselves which  are
most  uniquely their own:  feelings,   emotions,   affect,
yearnings,  desires, fears, hopes, aspirations, etc. Their
PARENTS of origin left them feeling that the proper  thing
to do was to be rational, reasonable, logical, systematic,
precise,  etc.;  to cope with emotionally threatening  and
insecure  situations.   By training and  circumstance  the
ADULTS  inside  the scientists were encouraged  to  become
well  developed  and  the CHILD  inside  each  emotionally
repressed scientist was repressed, stunted, not allowed to
be expressive.

     In   the  absence  of  emotionally   supportive   and
affectively expressive PARENTS in their families of origin
scientists  in  their early lives learned to cope  through
the  development  of their ADULT capacities;  but did  not
learn  how to develop the potentials of the CHILD and  the
PARENT  inside  them  who would have  matured  under  more
encouraging circumstances. Thus, such scientists lives are
dominated  by  ADULT  considerations in the absence  of  a
healthy balance between CHILD-like and parental  interests
and concerns.  They do not know how to nurture and support
the  CHILD  within in the ways in which a  healthy  PARENT
would;   because  they  did not experience  such  nurture,
support and encouragement in their own childhood.

     The  world of most scientists is dominated by  people
in  whom  the  ADULT is far more developed than  is  their
CHILD  or PARENT.  It is not only the reality-within which
misleads  through the dominance of the ADULT within;   the
reality-outside  in  the professional scientific world  is
dominated  by the ADULTS-within the professionals  who  do
not  know how to nurture and support the CHILD-within  and
PARENT-within each professional.

     The  professional  collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception  of ADULT scientists are played by  the  ADULTS-
within  the professionals because they do not know how  to
be  open  and direct in the manner of emotionally  healthy
CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS.

     The addictions to pure research of ADULT professional
scientists are dominant because scientists do not know how
to be open and honest in the manner of emotionally healthy
CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS.

     The  networks of  foolishly  supportive  codependents
encourage  scientists  to be addicted  to  pure  research,
because  the ADULTS within codependents do not know how to
be  open and honest in the manner of  emotionally  healthy
CHILDREN and emotionally healthy PARENTS.

     Collusive  addicts and codependents are overdeveloped
ADULTS  who do not know how to be open and honest  in  the
manner  of  emotionally healthy CHILDREN  and  emotionally
healthy PARENTS.

     Competent  overdeveloped  ADULTS are  concerned  with
technical  considerations,   to the exclusion of  concerns
which typify the healthy CHILD and the healthy PARENT  who
are   well  balanced  and  attend  to  appropriate   ADULT
considerations. The competent overdeveloped ADULT excludes
the  considerations of the underdeveloped CHILD within and
of the underdeveloped PARENT within.

     Competent  overdeveloped ADULTS need to get in  touch
with the underdeveloped CHILD-within,  and become aware of
the  passive and active abuse suffered by that  CHILD  and
learn to listen to that CHILD-within.  They need to become
familiar with healthy PARENTS and encourage the growth and
development  of their own undeveloped  PARENT-within,   so
that   the   CHILD-within  may  receive  proper   nurture,
encouragement, support and affection.

     In  the  light of these considerations there  may  be
hope  that  we can grow up and stop being technocrats  who
threaten each other in childish ways with weapons of  mass
destruction.  War games are the addictive games of  mutual
self  deception  of  emotionally  immature   overdeveloped
ADULTS.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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