This is http://www.essayz.com/a9001021.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LETTING GO ACCEPTANCE LOVE EMBRACE LOVE AFFECTION 900102 An essential aspect of a healthy human life is mutual acceptance of letting-go-of-striving-for-achievement, and of each-other-in-affectionate-embraces which declare mutual-security-in-the-presence-of-mutual-vulnerability. People who have not known this essential aspect of a healthy human life cannot separately achieve health through striving for achievements which will make themselves acceptable to each other in mutually letting- go-of-striving-for-achievement, and of each-other-in-- affectionate-embraces which declare mutual-security-in- the-presence-of-mutual-vulnerability. This essential aspect of healthy human living is developed within cooperative communal activities, not through separated efforts and achievements. The assumption that the achievement of acceptability does, will, or should come first; and the actual affectionate acceptance follow because of the achievement; is an assumption (or preconception, conviction, belief, requirement, etc.) which stands in the way of any enjoyment of such healthy acceptance. Love is not predicated upon achievements, nor is it a response to achievements. The essence of love has to do with letting-go-of- striving-for-achievement, and of each-other-in- affectionate-embraces which declare mutual-security-in- the-presence-of-mutual-vulnerability. Rejections which are predicated upon imperfections, failures, and non-conformity thereby block the personal and communal integration and integrity which are made possible through the freedom generated by the essence of love. Such freedom is not achieved primarily through individual efforts; it is generated by mutual love which brings together and unites what is inappropriately held apart and separate. Achievements are facilitated not by requirements, but by genuine love. Genuine love is not achieved through efforts to conform to some prescribed set of assumptions, beliefs, attitudes, or behavior patterns. It is dangerous to attempt to facilitate healthy achievements through any prescribed set of assumptions, beliefs, attitudes, or behavior patterns. Love often facilitates letting go in ways which makes cooperation possible. Love does not drive people to try harder to individually and separately achieve what they have not yet been able to achieve by themselves. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================