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          %SEXUAL DEFENSIVENESS SECURITY & SURVIVAL 870719

     A  species does not survive unless its members defend
themselves against threats to their personal and  communal
integrities  and  enjoy  the security to  become  sexually
intimate and  reproduce  to  replace  themselves as finite
incarnations of the essence of their species.

     Sexual  survival  embodies an eternal conflict and  a
need  to  achieve  a balance between the  instinct  to  be
defensive  and  the  instinct  to be  intimate  in  secure
contexts.

     Being  defensive often undermines the possibility  of
security  because defensiveness often is perfected to  the
point that it threatens the security of others and invites
a parallel defensive response on the part of those against
one  was  being  defensive.    Such a  feed-back  loop  of
reactions  and counter-reactions leads to an escalation of
conflict, and so to  an  intensification  of defensiveness
and insecurity.    Such a cycle is counter-productive  and
does not promote the survival of the species.

     The  conflict  between  the instinctive  need  to  be
defensive  and  the  instinctive  need  to  be  secure  in
intimacy---is   heightened   when  it  is   dominated   by
consciousness  and  a  conformal need/desire of others  to
govern the two instincts in keeping with convergent formal
conceptions   of   what  constitutes   proper   and   what
constitutes  improper forms of defensiveness and intimacy.
Then  different members of the same species need to be  on
the    defensive    against   each   other's    judgments,
condemnations  and  rejections;   while at the  same  time
seeking  opportunities  for  intimacy in  the  context  of
security.   In such a collection of defensive members of a
species  it is difficult for  there to exist a  collective
sense of mutually supported security within which intimate
dialogue  among  defensive  members  is  possible.    When
defensiveness   dominates  and  undermines  intimacy   the
integrity  of  both  the  community  and  its  members  is
severely threatened.

     At  the level of instinct there is a conflict between
the need to be defensive and the need to be intimate.  The
achievement  of  balance  at the level of  instinct  is  a
miracle.    To enjoy balance at the level of consciousness
will be another miracle.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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