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%TRAGIC ARMS RACE 850101
When we feel threatened and vulnerable we seek to
defend ourselves by taking advantage of the vulnerability
of our enemy. We attack or threaten our perceived enemy
at the point of their vulnerability, even if our
perceptions do not correspond to any objective reality of
threat of attack by another whom we have perceived to be
an enemy. Our perceptions of insecurity can cause us to
act as enemy towards others by taking advantage of their
points of vulnerability. Our perceptions of insecurity
lead us to make them insecure and defensive, seeking to
maximize their points of vulnerability.
We fear rejection, estrangement, alienation,
separation, ridicule, being made to be alone. We fear
that our tentative moves towards intimacy will be
rebuffed, rejected, making us to be alone. We want
intimacy and closeness, but fear that our advances will
not be perceived as being mature and friendly.
They may be experienced by another as a threat and
they may take advantage of our having made ourselves to
be vulnerable by making a friendly advance. They may
fear being close and intimate. They may fear the
vulnerability of intimacy and mistake our friendly
advances as threats to their security. Thus they
may seek to achieve security by avoiding the
vulnerability of being intimate.
Too often we forget that we are genuinely secure only
when we can safely and without fear be vulnerable. We
seek security through techniques which minimize
vulnerability, when in reality we can not have genuine
security in the absence of vulnerability. To enjoy
security we need to make it safe for others to be
vulnerable, and to reduce their fear of being
vulnerable.
The arms races of mankind are run in ignorance of the
true nature of security and how it may be enjoyed. The
arms races are technical efforts to achieve that which can
not be achieved by technical efforts of any kind. In fact
the efforts are tragically counter-productive, destroying
that which they seek to achieve.
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