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Jill is the victim of some injustice and unfortunate
circumstances. Jill feels being the victim, and chooses
to feel impotent to deal with injustice in any creative
way. She regards the solutions to her problems to reside
outside herself, and perceives herself as the pathetic
victim of forces over which she has no possible control.
From her point of view any efforts on her part are
pointless, because overwhelming powers outside her are
either unjust or indifferent to her needs. She believes
such powers will undermine the effect or meaning of all
her efforts. The perceptions she has chosen---she regards
as representations of the real world.
Jill the victim goes to Jack whom she perceives to be
in a position of power, authority, and social respect.
Jill seeks Jack's sympathy and asks that Jack authenticate
her perception of her status as victim. Only such an
authentication will validate his sympathy. She seeks
confirmation of the reality which she has chosen to
perceive---in order that she may be secure in its
stability and comfortable in a sympathetic understanding
of her role as victim in that reality.
Jack does not choose to perceive Jill as impotent
victim of powers over which she has no control. Jack
perceives Jill as having the potential to mitigate many of
the injustices in society of which Jill is the victim, and
the ability to bring meaning to unfortunate circumstances.
Jack hopes that Jill will choose to assume responsibility
for the meaning of her life in a creative and positive
way. Jack perceives Jill as having the power to choose to
make positive contributions---so that others needs not
suffer as much as Jill has. Jack is sympathetic, but not
in ways which Jill wishes to accept. Jill rejects Jack's
sympathy because of the terms under which he offers it---
that she accept some responsibility for her life.
Jill is prone to cut herself off from Jack because he
does not fulfill her expectations of him, regarding him as
another of those powers which is casting her in the role
of victim, with no sense or feeling of her suffering. The
more she alienates herself, the more her perceptions of
reality seem to be confirmed in people's lack of sympathy
for her unfortunate circumstances.
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