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This-essay is a7908041.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %SHARE REPORT COMPLAIN PETITION DESCRIBE+790804 %DEMAND ASK HURT PAIN VIOLENCE+790804 %INJUSTICE COLLUSION COMMUNICATE LISTEN 790804 The listener may misunderstand when someone who is experiencing hurt, pain, violence, injustice, collusions, etc. seeks to share in a personal way the experience. The intent may be to report and describe---to facilitate mutual awareness and mutual understanding between friends, hopefully to elicit sympathy and support. The listener may bring expectations, experiences, word meanings, and contexts which occasion the experience of a complaint, petition, demand, or threat. Thus an effort to strengthen the bonds of friendship may be misunderstood and occasion a wedge which threatens to block communication. The listener may feel that there is no disavowal of such a possible interpretation. The listener may be in part responsible for the hurt, feel guilty for such responsibility, but be powerless to make things right or prevent further hurt. The attempted sharing may thus place the listener in a position where resentment, rather than sympathy is the natural response. If the hurt person's effort at sharing is heard as a demand to take extreme and dangerous measures in a futile effort to "set things right"---then the listener may feel profoundly threatened---and be tempted to "run away" from the situation. Unreasonable complaints and demands do not strengthen friendships. Thus sharing which is heard as an unreasonable complaint and/or demand may threaten a friendship. Friends need to share their hurts, pain, and experiences of violence, injustices, and collusions---in ways which do not lend themselves to misunderstanding and misinterpretation. Where a friend is at fault, honesty about the perception of fault is often in order. Where fault is not perceived and sharing of hurt is in order, it is also in order to be clear---to the extent possible---where the fault is perceived to lie, and not lie. When collusions are the occasion for hurt and the friends are entangled in the collusions as victims/participants---efforts to extricate themselves from collusions may engender complications in efforts to be open about hurts. Openness may make for vulnerability to the violations of collusions. Clarity regarding responsibility for hurt---may not exist. Real love involves real suffering in such instances. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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