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%LOVE DESIRES RESPONSIBLE-1+790423
%MUTUAL SHARE ENJOY JACK-1+790423
%PROVIDE NEEDS AFFIRM-1 790423
Jill loves Jack; i.e., Jill is in a relationship of
love with Jack. Jill regards it as natural to share her
desires with Jack, to enjoy mutual awareness of desires---
without necessarily intending to take overt action to
satisfy such desires. Jill regards such sharing of
desires as the natural expression of love. To not share
felt desires would be to fail to love. Jill feels that if
Jack loves her Jack will appreciate and acknowledge her
expressions of desires, even when there is no intent to
take overt action to satisfy such desires; for there can
be mutual satisfaction in mutual awareness of desires
apart from action to fulfill the shared desires. If Jack
does not acknowledge and take delight in her expressions
of her desires Jill gets messages that Jack does not love
her and Jill's understanding of appropriate expressions of
love are challenged/undermined. Jill may conclude that
Jack does not love her and/or that she does not know how
to love Jack.
Jack loves Jill; i.e., Jack is in a relationship of
love with Jill. Jack feels a responsibility to be
responsive to Jill's needs, to take action to meet her
needs, to satisfy them. Jack is a man of action, a
provider. He is proud of his ability to provide, and
regards providing for needs to be met as the natural
expression of profound love. When Jill makes known to
Jack what her needs are, Jack feels a responsibility to
make provision to meet Jill's needs. Jack feels
responsible for meeting all of Jill's natural, normal,
legitimate, reasonable needs. For Jack to acknowledge and
affirm Jill's expressions of her needs is to say that they
are natural, normal, legitimate, and reasonable---and so
for him to take on the burden of responsibility to see
that they are met. If Jack can not fulfill that
responsibility for any reason, Jack will find it
exceedingly difficult to acknowledge and affirm Jill's
felt needs---and so give Jill messages that he does not
love her. Thus Jack can not enjoy mutual awareness of
mutual needs with Jill when they can not together or
individually act to fulfill their felt needs.
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