This-essay is a7811301.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %FEAR OF LISTENING UNION 781130 Communication may be blocked by the fear of listening. Even people who know how to listen may fear to listen. Training people in the techniques of listening will not by itself set them free to listen to messages which they fear. Disturbing messages may be kept out by failing to listen; i.e., failing to attend to the messages which are present. It is often possible to go through the motions of appearing to listen, and appearing to be responsive, while avoiding the reception of feared messages. The words, signals, gestures, and other symbols may be physically received, but not accepted meaningfully. Lectures will only rarely help people get over the fear of listening. Reading will only rarely help people get over the fear of listening. Rarely will purely verbal messages cast out the fear of listening. Love, whose essence is to promote communication, casts out the fear of listening. Love, whose essence is to promote communication, casts out the fear of listening by undermining the powers which make challenging messages be fearful. Love overcomes the powers of alienation which occasion the fear of challenging messages, and so occasion the fear of listening. The essence of love is to facilitate and promote communication. The essence of evil is the blockage of communication. The fear of listening is a basic manifestation of evil, and is not overcome technologically. Evil is not conquered by guns, bombs, airplanes, missiles, nuclear weapons---because they undermine opportunities and motivation to communicate, to dialogue, to listen. The use of violent weapons, whether physical or non-physical, violates integrities and so takes apart rather than unities. Communication pertains to union, not to taking apart. The fear of listening takes listening out of communication and leaves only broadcasting. Broadcasting in the absence of feed-back, response, and confirmation of messages accepted is a meaningless gesture. Broadcasting is meaningless if there are no listeners. The promotion of broadcasting in the absence of listeners is a futile venture---no matter how common the practice may be. Too rarely do people who want to promote communication focus on the promotion of listening. They usually focus on the promotion of broadcasting because they do not understand how the fear of listening operates to promote alienation, misunderstanding, sin. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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