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     A  dedication  to deferred satisfaction may  lead  to
terminal  affection;  i.e.,  the deferral of affection  to
final  moments of life---at partings,  formal  ceremonies,
marriages,  graduations, retirements, moving away,  death.
In  a culture which is dedicated to deferred  satisfaction
affection  may be inhibited to motivate work for  terminal
affection.    The culture may fear that present  affection
may undermine the motivation to work, to be productive, to
conform  to proper behavior patterns.   The withholding of
affirmations,  affection, respect, etc. may be a technique
to motivate desired conventional behavior.   People may be
coerced into conventional behavior by making them work for
terminal affection.

     A  society  which  know affection  only  as  terminal
affection is likely to be a very frustrated society.   Its
frustrations  are likely to be expressed in many forms  of
violence   and  perversion---not all of  them  obvious  to
members  of  the  society.    People's  behavior  will  be
dictated by traditional,  institutional, legal,  and other
norms, rather than by each persons nature, needs, desires,
experiences, perceptions, etc.  The dedication to terminal
affection   will   thus   undermine   the   discovery   of
satisfactory    ways    of   coping    through    personal
experimentation.   Terminally affected people are not free
to make their own discoveries about living.   They are the
victims  of  authoritarian conventions  regarding  living.
They  are  imprisoned in a striving for a reward which  is
always held just out of reach---with rare expectations.

     Terminally  affected  people tend to  lead  perverted
lives compared to what their lives might be.  They need to
learn  to  live  in a new world where  affection,   trust,
vulnerability, love, openness, responsiveness, and persons
are  real.   In such a world there is no need to wait  for
terminal  moments to enjoy life in love.   It is  a  quite
different  world which is founded on different foundations
than  is  the world of terminally affected  people.    The
citizens  of  the  two worlds find it  very  difficult  to
listen   and  dialogue,   because  they  speak   radically
different  languages---even  though they may use the  same
words.

                                                                                                                               
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