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                           %EMOTIONAL DEFENSIVENESS 780512

     To  avoid getting emotionally hurt people will  often
engage  in  emotionally defensive moves.   Such  defensive
moves   are   not  as  obvious  as   objective   emotional
expressions  which  tend to be offensive in character  and
effect.    Emotional defensive moves tend to be subjective
in   character,    and  so  are  not  open  to   objective
examination.    The  defensive  moves  are  likely  to  be
concealed  from those who occasioned them,  and are likely
to be kept secret from most  everybody.   Even the  person
engaged   in  emotionally  defensive  moves  may  not   be
conscious  of  the  nature  of  those  moves---they  being
designed and executed  without conscious intent, decision,
or planning.

     One kind of defensive  move   consists  of  emotional
disengagement.   When you are emotionally engaged you tend
to be very vulnerable.   Emotional disengagement tends  to
reduce    emotional   vulnerability;    by   indifference,
callousness,   repression of commitments,   forgetfulness,
etc.

    People may enter into collusions to protect themselves
and  each other against emotional pain.   They  may  enter
into  games of mutual self-deception to avoid the pain  of
subjective  consciousness---and  through joint  effort  be
more  successful  than  were  they  to  attempt  emotional
defensiveness singly.

     Playing  traditional stereotyped roles is another way
to  create emotional defenses.   Conventional role playing
tends to reduce emotional sensitivity---because  responses
are  defined by conventions,  rather than revealing of the
real self. Thus traditions and conventions tend to promote
the conservation  of  emotions---and  so  the reduction of
emotional  vitality;  emotional  conservation does sustain
emotional vitality.

     Resort  to legalistic life styles is another type  of
emotional  defensiveness.    It  is  a  formalization   of
traditional/conventional  living---making  mandatory  what
might otherwise by merely traditional/conventional.  Since
legalistic  rules  cannot successfully occasion  emotional
honesty  (while  mandating  the playing of  humane  roles)
legalistic  rules tend to promote emotional  defensiveness
against the hurt of emotional dishonesty.

                                                                                                                               
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