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                              %SADISM AND MASOCHISM 771219

     Sadism  and  masochism compliment each  other.    The
sadist and masochist  give  each  other  pleasure in their
perverted  ways,   the  sadist by being  abusive  and  the
masochist  by  accepting abuse.   We usually  reserve  the
terms for extreme forms of sadism and of masochism --- and
usually  for  forms with obvious sexual  overtones.   Such
reservation  tends to blind us to the more pervasive forms
of  sadism and masochism which are less extreme  and  less
obviously  sexual  in origin.  Many forms  of  sadism  and
masochism  are  neither  physical  nor  obviously  sexual.
Sexual frustration may occasion abuses which are exchanged
economically, legalistically, moralistically, religiously,
verbally,    non-verbally,   militarily,   diplomatically,
politely,  legally, properly,  etc.   Sadism and masochism
are far more prevalent than we dare to recognize.

     Probably  one of the most helpful ways of working  to
reduce  the  prevalence  of sadism  and  masochism  is  to
facilitate   healthy,   rather  than  perverted,    sexual
relationships.     Facilitation    of    healthy    sexual
relationships   will  not  be  done  through   repressive,
legalistic  or moralistic measures.  Facilitation with  be
via  people who are free to be open with each  through  an
ultimate dedication to facilitating openness and honesty.

     Sadism  and masochism are more prevalent  within  our
educational processes than most of us would care to admit.
Within  education,  abuses take on subtle forms  which are
hard   to   detect   for  those   entrapped   within   the
sadistic/masochistic collusions.  The sadist and masochist
serve  each  other well and find it difficult to  perceive
their  perversions  of  love.  To them their  behavior  is
entirely  conventional and proper according to  tradition.
They  are  likely  to feel threatened by  the  specter  of
genuine  love which is unconventional.   Professor-student
relationships  which  are  non-abusive  and  intimate  are
likely to appear unusual and improper against the backdrop
of conventional low-level sadistic/masochistic educational
relationships.

     Only when the sexual origins of  sadistic/masochistic
relationships  can  be  openly  acknowledged  will  it  be
possible to facilitate more loving relationships.

                                                                                                                               
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