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%VESTING EMOTIONS 771207
A person's character is occasioned by the person's
vesting of emotions in personal relationships, objective
relationships, abstract relationships, possessive
relationships, or other kinds of relationships. A person
can not easily give self fully to two competing foci of
attention. There is a finite amount of time, energy, and
emotional resources to be invested. Where they are
invested is of ultimate significance.
The higher the level of competency which a person
seeks to attain in a focal area---the greater will be the
need for specialization --- for saying no to complementary
interests. Specialization tends to be with respect to
modes of coping as well as with respect to subject matters
of attention. Specialists thus tend to vest their emotions
in people, objects, abstractions, possessions, but not in
a balanced mixture of all. Specialists tend to become
preoccupied with the techniques appropriate to the focus
of their attention---gaining such emotional satisfaction
as they may enjoy---only within the chosen special kind of
relationships; personal, objective, abstract, or
possessive. They do not have time to do otherwise---
because such time as they have to spend---is spent in
service of their highest value --- their specialty.
Often investments are made with the intent of long
term dividends. In such cases the investor does not
expect quick returns. People who invest their emotions in
objective and abstract relationships usually do not expect
a quick return on their investment. Their emotional lives
are rather subdued as a result. They are willing to wait
for many years to got the thrill of receiving the Nobel
Prize, or some other great recognition. Deferred
satisfaction is the rule, and they are willing to follow
that rule as if it were a major virtue. They look with
suspicion upon those who cash in and get quick emotional
interest from their emotional investments. The specialist
may feel that premature withdrawal of the emotional
investment carries with it a penalty---just as is true in
the case of premature withdrawal of money invested in a
high interest certificate of deposit.
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