This-essay is a7705061.htm which is available at the
web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom.
Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay
By-Months By-Years By-Words
Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One
==========================================================
%LOVERS & DIALOGUE 770506
Lovers are participants in and promoters of dialogue.
They seek ways to transcend numerous blockages to
dialogue---so that they and others may know each other
more intimately. Lovers are to be contrasted to
technocrats. Technocrats ultimately suppose values which
undermine dialogue. Thus technocrats and lovers often
oppose each other---perceiving what the other values as
being evil. Because technocrats do not ultimately value
dialogue, lovers and technocrats can not develop an ethos
of mutual awareness and mutual understanding. Technocrats
tend to be exclusive in their valuing. Lovers tend to be
inclusive in their valuing. Thus technocrats promote sin
and lovers promote reconciliation. Sin is alienation---
the absence of dialogue.
Dialogue is reciprocal, mutual. All participants in
dialogue both speak and listen, responding reciprocally to
what each other has said. Much conversation is not
dialogue due to the absence of listening and of
reciprocity. In dialogue listening is completed through
confirmation, the listener directly or indirectly asking
for conformation of mutual awareness and mutual
understanding. In reciprocal give-and-take it becomes
evident where there has been misunderstanding or where
messages simply were not received or internalized. In
dialogue participants seek evidence of mutual awareness
and mutual understanding; they are not taken for granted.
Lovers seek to uncover instances of lack of awareness
and/or understanding and work through dialogue to promote
mutual awareness and mutual understanding.
We figuratively speak of communication as if it were
all verbal in character. Many states of consciousness
call for non-verbal forms of communication. In practice it
may be impossible for technocrats to identify the mode of
communication of lovers. If fact, lovers may not be
conscious of exactly how they engage in dialogue---even
though they thereby know each other profoundly.
Technocrats may dismiss the significance of dialogue which
they can not explain or understand, and they thereby
promote alienation by ultimately valuing explanations and
understanding which facilitates manipulations. Lovers are
content in their dialogue.
(c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty
(On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)
==========================================================
Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use
in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates
of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99,
@ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count.
Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
Find the following links by clicking on CENTER when CENTER
near the top or bottom of a web page of essayz.com
1. Go to HOME PAGE of essayz.com
2. Find brief-essays via keywords
3. Find brief-essay about ADDICTION
4. Search-Helps related to ABOVE-LINK
5. GoTo Action & Information Center
6. Find Regular-Essays via Year/Month
7. Find Regular-Essays via Word-Starts
8. Find Regular-Essay about LOVE
This-essay is a7705061.htm which is available at the
web-site www.essayz.com. These 5 lines echo top lines.
Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay
By-Months By-Years By-Words
Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One