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%INSECURITY AND BELONGING 761011
The insecure people feel a need to belong to someone
or some group. In the absence of unconditional acceptance
by anyone, they sell themselves in return for a sense of
belonging. This is a prostitution of meaningful human
relationships. Meaningful human relationships are not
contractual in nature; they are not founded upon
legalistic definitions of what the relationship shall be.
The insecure seek to buy a sense of belonging in return
for surrender of freedom; i.e., granting the other party
or parties, rights of ownership and control. Belonging in
such situations is a relationship between owner and owned,
a possessive relationship implying exclusive rights of
control over other relationships and communications.
Mutuality of contractual belonging does not lead to
transcendence of the situation described. Participants
in mutual contractual belonging may be satisfied with
their arrangements; yet they will not fulfill their
unique God-given potentials thereby. Mutual contractual
belonging excludes the possibility of Love. Thus God is
replaced by Law and this is the occasion for alienation
which is the condition of sin. Such alienation
intensifies the insecurity, the need to belong, and
intensifies the bonds of the contract which gives a sense
of belonging. Thus, in a violent feed-back loop the
arrangement intensifies the need for the arrangement, and
so fulfills itself. From the perspective of the
participants, security is to be found in technique, and so
legalistic, solutions to problems defined exclusively in
technical terms. Once the situation is perceived
exclusively in technical terms, it is inevitable that the
dilemmas implicit in it will be defined exclusively in
technical terms---and only technical solutions will be
sought.
Once insecurity has undermined meaningful human
relationships, the reality of I-Thou fades away, and only
the reality of I-It remains. In the world of I-It
relationships are perceived exclusively in technical
terms, in accord with the nature of the perceived
reality. This is why people who are exclusively
technical in their orientation pay for technological
success by surrendering and sacrificing humane
environments and intimate personal relationships.
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