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%MANAGING SEXUAL FANTASIES 760408
God gave men and women the tendency to have sexual
fantasies, to help bring them together. Like all God-
given tendencies, this one can become destructive. As a
result, some thoughtless people have come to regard the
tendency as evil, in violation of God's commandment not
to distinguish between good and evil people. Such
judgments of people who exercise their God-given ability
to have sexual fantasies drives men and women apart,
contrary to God's intention of bringing them together in
love. Such separation is sin. Sin is the condition of
being alienated. Sin is promoted by legalism of any form.
Legalists would have men and women inhibit sexual
fantasies---because they regard sexual fantasies as
essentially evil. People who exercise their God-given
ability to have sexual fantasies are regarded as evil, not
to be associated with. Thus legalists violate God's
children and encourage them to deny the reality of one of
God's gifts. People who consistently deny any reality go
insane---to the extent to which they lose touch with
reality and each other. The more covert the denial---the
more destructive it is likely to be. It is necessary to
break the bonds created by legalists.
Legalists seek to create a successful society through
controls which presume to be more important than any
dedication to openness. The bonds fashioned by legalists
may best be broken by reaffirmation of the importance of
love which facilitates openness. God is Love. The bonds
of the legalists may be broken by recognizing their
idolatry. Then it may become possible to be honest and
open about sexual fantasies---without attempting to
fulfill them all. It would be destructive to attempt to
fulfill all possibilities suggested by sexual fantasies,
just as it would be destructive to attempt to fulfill all
possibilities suggested by technocratic fantasIes. In
both cases priorities must be set---else destructive
patterns of behavior develop. Priorities may best be
set in an atmosphere of mutual trust and openness in
which risks may be taken without the fear that
vulnerability will be taken advantage of.
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