This-essay is a7310134.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %MODESTY AND OPENNESS 731013 The person who is not open to others can not be in dialogue. On the other hand the person who, without respect for others' desires, displays self to others--- will tend to block authentic meeting and dialogue. This is true regardless of the content of the openness which may be: sexual, personal history, emotional responses, personal accomplishments, intellectual skills, aesthetic appreciation, technical competence, or science competence. A compulsive need for attention can undermine the instinctive tendency for modesty, and so in an excessive openness block open sharing and the excitement which goes with mutual discovery and self revelation. Modesty which is put on because of restrictions external to the self---is not authentic modesty, and so does not facilitate authentic meeting. Thus, maintaining standards of modesty is not the way to facilitate authentic meeting. Persons playing deceptive games can not be dedicated to openness in the eternal now. They can only manipulate the behavior of self and other in the process of the future becoming the past. Openness which is demanded by considerations external to the self---can not be real and meaningful. Thus maintaining a program of openness is not the way of facilitating authentic meeting. In programmed openness persons are likely to play at being open, rather than be authentic selves with personal integrity in keeping with individual instinctive being. Technocrats tend not to be in dialogue with real persons, in part because they lack modesty with respect for their technical skills. Technocrats tend to have an unrealistic imagination when considering the human meaning of their skills, and so they participate in impossible dreams---which they see themselves as having the power to fulfill. Whenever self and other fail to recognize their limitations within the nature of reality---they are likely to lack modesty, become the victims of the finitude which they fail to respect; and so become the victims of fragmentation, estrangement, and alienation. Real problems and dilemmas can not be solved and resolved on the basis of a faulty understanding of the nature of reality of the self and others and their relationships within it. It is essential that there be a modest dedication to openness regarding our finite natures. (c) 1999 by Paul A. Smith in GO: essayz.com "Search for Integrity and Honesty" (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================
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