Honesty is an essential foundation for personal and communal integrities --- because if we cannot trust each other to be open and honest, we cannot effectively cooperate or engage in mutually helpful collaborations. True lovers trust each other because in their sanctuary communities they know that they are safe, and they truly feel safe, in taking many risks together with each other.
True lovers graciously avoid being dragged into collusive self deception by domineering people who insist on sponsoring competitions to prove who is most domineering and most in control.
Domineering people's addictions and codependent-supporters both undermine truly intimate dialogue that is mutually informative and facilitates both learning and healthy growth.
Domineering people's unilateral efforts to achieve security are counter-productive, because they try to achieve security for themselves at other people's expense.
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391 HONEST 216 SIN 214 HONESTY
210 OPEN 198 INTEGRITY 194 SELF
192 EVIL 188 DISHONEST 176 LOVE
159 DISHONESTY 155 PERSONAL 144 CONTROL
134 DIALOGUE 132 CONFLICT 129 DOMINATION
120 GOD 117 COMMUNAL 117 COLLUSION
113 DECEPTION 112 VIOLENCE 101 SYSTEM
96 ADDICT 93 COLLUSIVE 90 INTIMACY
86 VULNERABLE 82 GOOD 81 RELATIONSHIPS
78 COERCION 76 SECURITY 72 TRUE
72 ADDICTION 70 SEXUAL 70 INTIMATE
69 OTHER 69 ALIENATION 66 MUTUAL
64 SEX 64 FEAR 62 TRUTH
62 HEALTH 59 BALANCE 56 PEOPLE
55 RESOLUTION 54 RESPECT 53 POWER
52 HEALTHY 52 DEVILS 50 LOVERS
49 EXCLUSIVE 49 ARROGANCE 48 REFLEXIVE
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