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 %UNHEALTHY DOMINEERING RELATIONSHIPS PEOPLE FALLEN 040317
   %TOLERATE TOLERANCE NONCONFORMAAL FANTASY WORLDS 040317
%INTIMATE SHARING OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE DREAM VISION 040317
%FALSE PROPHETS CONCENTRATEDE CORRUPTED POWER FORCE 040317
 %COERCION NONVIOLENCE PEACEMAKING WAR DESTRUCTIONS 040317
%ALIENATION RECONCILIATION FORGIVE HEAL LIBERATIONS 040317

     Domineering  people  cannot/will-not  long   tolerate
people  who  spend  much  time  in  non-conformal  fantasy
worlds; and especially they cannot/will-not long  tolerate
people  who share with each other details  of  their  non-
conformal  fantasy  worlds of integrity  and  integrations
within which  they spend  a significant  amount  of  time.
Such  sharing is suspect!    Such sharing might  lead   to
actual   overt   and   public   non-conformal   behaviors!
Non-conformists  who spend much time   in  a fantasy world
of non-conformal words, visions, dreams, and fantasies ---
may   make   transitions   into  realized-worlds  of  non-
conformal   works   which   domineering   people    cannot
dominate/control/coerce to CONFORM  to  THEIR-EXCLUSIVELY-
PROPER patterns of: attitudes, thoughts,  dreams, visions,
intimate-communications,    sexual-communications,     and
togetherness.

     To  domineering people ---  the sharing  of  insights
discerned    within  a   fantasy-world  or  prayer ---  is
an  illegitimate   way   for    victims    of  domination-
coercion-conformity    to   escape  from  their    proper-
prisons    of thoughtless-conformity.      Beware!     The
gracious  works  of  Love  and Holy  Spirit  must  not  be
tolerated!     The works of Love and Holy Spirit  are  NOT
PEROPERLY    DOMINATED   by    GOOD:    rules,       laws,
commandments,     regulations,  obedience,  perfectionism,
conformists, etc.

     The   works/words  of  LOVE  and  Holy   Spirit   are
conSPIRITal Works-of-The-Devil.   They are blasphemous and
they must never be tolerated  or forgiven by PROPER-PEOPLE
who  faithfully   worship  and  support  "The   Domination
System".  We  who are PROPERLY self-righteous and PROPERLY
arrogant must  hang  together,   else we  will  fall-apart
through intolerable dis-integrations;  i.e.,  through dis-
loyalty, dis-obedience,  dis-conformity,  dis-stance, dis-
belief, dis-trust, dis-like, dis-persions,  etc. which are
all DIS-APPROVED by "The Domination System".  Obey!

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     If we remain unaware of what stands in the way of and
blocks  the  ways in which Love and  Holy  Sprint  subvert
domineering  people's  ability  to get to  do   things  in
their   unilateral   ways;      we  are  unlikely  to   be
intentional   in supporting the spirit and ways   of  Love
and  Holy  Sprit  ---  as  they  are   working  in   their
collaborative  works  to transform domineering people into
True-Lovers.    If we are not  intentional  in  supporting
the ways of Love and  Holy Spirit  ---   we are likely  to
get   dragged/sucked/seduced into "The Domination  System"
and all of its disintegrative incarnations.

     It  is  not  enough  to  be able  to  recognize  what
various  "dysfunctional-realities"      contribute     to:
alienation, estrangement, distrust,  suspicion, confusion,
chaos, coercion, contentiousness,  etc.    We need ALSO to
recognize  how  the "dysfunctional-realities" interact and
support  each other in  making  such contributions and  in
making  the  "dysfunctional-realities"  seem  respectable,
proper,  right,  righteous,  etc.    Thoughtless identifi-
cations of isolated  realities  are not  as helpful as are
thoughtful    identifications   of  interactive-realities,
their  inter-relationships  and  their  various  kinds  of
fruits; both bitter and sweet!

     Beware of labeling any one isolated reality,  person,
ideal,  value,  goal, hope, aspiration, desire, intention,
script, dream, vision, etc. ---  as being essentially-evil
or  being  essentially-good  in all  circumstances  and/or
situations.    Such simple-mindedness  will MORE  PROBABLY
lead   to  EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS  than  to   WELL-INTEGRATED-
RELATIONSHIPS.

     Beware of labeling  any  one isolated RELATIONSHIP as
essentially-evil  or essentially-good in all circumstances
and/or  situations.   Such  simple-mindedness   will  MOST
probably lead to EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS,  rather than to WELL-
INTEGRATED-RELATIONSHIPS.

     Healthy  RELATIONSHIPS    are    created    primarily
by the participants  in the relationships ---  through the
manner  of  their cooperation,  collaborations  and  being
together  in giving open and  honest  expression  to their
own   diverse:   attitudes,    assumptions,     questions,
doubts,    beliefs,  convictions,  perspectives,   ideals,
values,   principles,  hopes,     aspirations,    visions,
dreams,    fantasies, creativity, etc.

     Healthy RELATIONSHIPS are  NOT   created or sustained
primarily     by   unilateral   declarations,     demands,
commandments, expectations, etc. on the part of people who
are NOT the primary-participants in the  relationships ---
no   matter  how  much  power  they   may  have    to   be
unilaterally-domineering,        coercive,        violent,
destructive, etc.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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