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  %DESCRIPTIVE PRESCRIPTIVE PROSCRIPTIVE STATEMENTS 040122
  %TRUE TRUTHS FALSE MISLEADING LEADERS INDIVIDUALS 040122
%HEALTHY MUTUAL BALANCED RELATIONSHIPS EVIL CONTROL 040122
%DOMINATION SYSTEM FALLEN POWERS BEING ALIENATED IT 040122
%I-THOU BUBER PLEASURE MEANING SATISFY VANISH LOVER 040122
 %GORDIAN KNOTS REACH GETTING OWN SELF OTHER TRUTHS 040122

     The following are offered as descriptive  statements; 
not  as  prescriptive or proscriptive  statements.     The 
statements will  most  likely be found  to be false and/or 
misleading   if  they  are  received  as  prescriptive  or 
proscriptive statements. 

     Healthy  people find pleasure in  mutually-satisfying 
relationships; but NOT within relationships which are NOT-
mutually-satisfying.      For  healthy-people,   pleasures 
vanish    when   other   participants    within    "their" 
relationships  do   NOT-ENJOY  participating   in  "their" 
relationships with them. 
      
     Sadistic  people  and   masochistic  people  are  not 
health-people.   They (and  their  domineering  "friends") 
promote    and    facilitate   personal    and    communal 
disintegrations.    Other  people who are healthy  do  not 
enjoy being in  relationships  with  them.    They  cannot 
unilaterally  control how much (or the kinds of) pleasure, 
pain   or   enjoyment  people  "get"   out  of  being   in 
relationships with them.   They cannot unilaterally "give" 
themselves  or  each other the  "pleasures",   "happiness" 
and/or  "joy"    that  they may  unilaterally:   envision,  
dream-of, or "create" within their fantasy worlds.   
     
     "Our" pleasures, happiness and joys 
       depend upon our freely-choosing 
        to be cooperative participants 
         within cooperative relationships with others who 
          freely-choose to be cooperative participants 
           with us --- as free-participants; ALL 
            with equal rights to make our own choices. 
             What we covet vanishes when we unilaterally 
              try to control what we covet; e.g., real: 
               friendships, intimacies, relationships and
                honesty-truths. 

     We cannot truly be the best that we can be:
     
     1.  In isolation/estrangement.
     2.  Through excommunications.
     3.  Through unilateral will-power and actions.
     4.  Through being domineering and "in-control".
     5.  Through purity, purifications and exclusivity. 
     6.  Through unilateral achievements/successes.
     7.  Through conformity and formalities.
     8.  Through "proper" rituals, beliefs and actions.
     9.  Through commandments and obedience in fear.
    10.  Through prescriptions and scripture-worship. 
  
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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