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%LET-GO-OF RECOGNIZE COMMON LIKE ROOTS FREQUENT EGO 030613
%RELAX DEFENSIVE OFFENSIVE NARCISSISM TENSION FEARS 030613
 %ANXIETY EXCLUSIVE ARROGANCE SELF RIGHTEOUS ADDICT 030613
%SIMPLISTIC UNDERSTANDING RESPONSES COMPLEXITY SINS 030613
%EVIL PEOPLE RELATIONSHIPS EXCOMMUNICATIONS EXCLUDE 030613

     People  who  have  NOT let-go-of and/or NOT  come  to
recognize the common (like)  roots of the following common
(frequent)  realities ---  are rarely able (qualified)  to
respond to the following realities in helpful  (effective)
ways:

     1.  Defensiveness,       2.  Insecurity,
      3.  Being-Offensive,     4.  Being-Domineering,
       5.  Narcissism,          6.  Necrophilia,
        7.  Egocentricity,       8. Paranoia,
         9.  Tension,            10.  Contentiousness,
         11.  Fearfulness,       12.  Anxiety,
        13.  Exclusivity,        14.  Arrogance,
       15.  Self-Righteousness, 16.  Addictions,
      17.  Alienation,         18.  Excommunications,
     19.  Evil-Relationships, 20.  Perfectionism.

     People  who  are victims of the above realities   (as
sinners)   commonly (frequently)  respond-to-each-other in
the   ways  which  are   described  by  the  above  words.
They  (the   people)  frequently (commonly)   cannot  see,
understand,    transcend  or  subvert  (turn  over)   what
troubles:

     1.  Them,

      2.  Their-relationships within-themselves,  AND

       3.  Their-relationships with each-other's-neighbor
           whom-they-encounter within the diverse ways
           (paths) of their diverse-and-yet-convergent
           faith-journeys.

     They  (the people)  turn-to-simplistic-ways of trying
to   deal  with  the  above  pointed  to  realities  which
trouble-them and turn-them-over in disorienting (dizzying)
ways.

     Simplistic  ways of responding to complex   realities
are  not  helpful  ways  of  responding  to  the   complex
realities;   or  to the roots of  the  complex  realities.
Pretending otherwise (in collusive ways)  is not a helpful
way  of responding to any part (or to the whole)   of  the
messy   circumstances  which we find   ourselves   to   be
together with each other.

     We need to help each other to see and understand  the
nature of  and  the roots of our complexes  of  imperfect-
relationships.    We also need to help each other to  work
cooperatively   on   helping each other to  improving-our-
RELATIONSHIPS with each-other-neighbor-in-need.
s  can
domineering    people   become   welcomed,     meaningful,
significant, and fulfilled participants?

     1.  Domineering  people  are  unwilling to  take  the
great  risks  which  are  involved in  being  truly  open,
honest,   intimate  and  vulnerable  with  truly  creative
people.   For this reason domineering people cannot become
meaningfully involved in such relationships.

     2.  True-lovers are  unwilling to see their  personal
and communal  integrities sacrificed  upon  the  alters of
idolatrous domineering people --- when there is no prudent
hope  that  their sacrifice  will lead to  changes in  the
hearts,  minds or life-styles of domineering  people.  For
this reason domineering  people cannot become meaningfully
involved  in   intimate  relationships  with   domineering
people or to learn about intimate relationships among true
-lovers in any meaningful way.

     3.  Domineering people are threatened by being  aware
of  how  true-lovers violate the prime directives of  "The
Domination System"  in most aspects of their lives.   True
-lovers  ARE  willing  to take prudent  risks  to  promote
openness,    honesty,     intimate  dialogue,     personal
integrations,   and communal  integrations.    Domineering
people are unwilling to take even cautiously prudent risks
---    and certainly not in ways which undermine the  ways
that  "The  Domination  System"   works  to     undermine:
openness,    honesty,    intimate    dialogue,    personal
integrations and communal  integrations!     It   is  thus
difficult  for domineering people to truly know about  how
true  loves find meaning,  fulfillment and health  in  the
ways that they do.

     4.  Domineering  people  are  prone to try to  be  in
control  of any activity within which they  are  involved.
They   cannot truly control the course of evolution of any
truly  meaningful  and significant personal  relationships
---   so  they  must choose  between   destroying  through
controls --- the course   of  evolution  of  any  personal
relationships    toward   being   truly   meaningful   and
significant;   and letting go of their  preoccupation with
controls --- and thereby stop  being domineering people.

     For the  above  reasons  people who   continue  to be
domineering  people ---  are usually ignorant of and  out-
of-touch  with  lovers who have managed  to  avoid   being
sucked    into  the   paradigm  of   domineering   people.
Controllers  seek  to   achieve   security  at the expense
of   vulnerable  people   who know true  security  as  the
freedom   to  be  safely  vulnerable    within   sanctuary
communities  which are free of the destructive efforts  of
domineering people.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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