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 %DOMINEERING PEOPLE EFFORTS CONTROL OWN OTHER SELF 030522
%RELATIONSHIPS DISHONESTY SECRECY UNILATERAL MUTUAL 030522
   %COERCIVE VIOLENT INTEGRITIES UNBALANCED DESIRES 030522
%UNINFORMED IGNORANCE TOUCH CONSEQUENCES LOVE GRACE 030522

     Domineering  people's  efforts to control  their  own
and/or  other  people's  RELATIONSHIPS  are  dysfunctional
because their efforts:

     1.  Engender resentment,
     2.  Engender dishonesty and secrecy,
     3.  Are themselves dishonest about possibilities,
     4.  Are unilateral; i.e., not mutual/cooperative.
     5.  Are coercive; i.e., not liberating/gentle.
     6.  Are violent; i.e., violating integrities.
     7.  Are unbalanced; NOT stabilizing in the long term.
     8.  Are uninformed by other's needs/desires.
     9.  Are out-of-touch with their consequences.
    10.  Are NOT motivated or directed by Love and Grace.

     It  may  help  us to  deal  with  such  dysfunctional
efforts --- if we recognize   some  details  of  just  why
they are dysfunctional, unjust, disintegrative, etc.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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