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   %DENIAL ADDICTION CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS NAME 030523
  %DESCRIBE CLARIFY ARTICULATE SHARE WAYS REALITIES 030523
%COOPERATE COLLABORATE RESPOND RESPONSIVE KNOWLEDGE 030523
%GOOD EVIL PEOPLE INTEGRITY DEMONSTRATE INTEGRITIES 030523
%HEALTHY WHOLE COHERENT WHOLE REPRESS SUPPRESS FALL 030523
   %WORSHIP IDOLATRY SEXUALITY LEGALISMS JUDGMENTAL 030523

     So  long  (and to the extent that)  any of  us  in  a
community  are "in denial"  about the ways in which we are
affected by our relationships with each other ---  so long
(and to such an extent) we will:

     1.  Be unable to accurately/honestly: name, describe,
clarify and/or share with each other what those "ways" and
realities  are.   The word "ways"  can here be  helpfully-
regarded in many different "ways"!

     2.  Be  unable  to share with each other  the  mutual
responsibilities    that   we  have  for  cooperating   in
responding to (and dealing responsibly with)  our own  and
each  other's experiences ---  and our responses to  them,
and our responses to each other as whole persons.

     3.  Be unable to truly know each other with integrity
--- as people demonstrating diverse kinds of integrities.

     4.  Be  unable  to integrate our own experiences  ---
with  each  other's  experiences  ---  into  any  kind  of
coherent and healthy whole reality.

     5.  Be   inclined    to  repress/suppress  into   our
unconsciousness    ---     those   experiences  which   we
cannot honestly name,  describe,   clarify and/or share in
intimate ways   of   safe  vulnerability   within    well-
integrated  sanctuaries  where security is thus  known  in
safety.

     6.  Be able to see,  name,  describe,  clarify and/or
share in intimate ways our understandings of how the above
dilemmas  flow from the activities of  domineering  people
who  are  faithfully  in the service  of  "The  Domination
System" which they worship as their "god".

     7.  Be able to see,  name,  describe,  clarify and/or
share in intimate ways --- how we are ourselves idolaters.

     8.  Be able to see,  name,  describe,  clarify and/or
share  in  intimate  ways  how  the  above   inter-related
experiences   relate   to  our  difficulties   with   our:
sexuality,   politics,    religious  and    financial  ---
contentiousness and disintegrative wars.

     When    the   above   developments   occur   in   our
relationships we find that we are crippled because:

     1.  We  are not well informed and cannot become  well
informed about each other and our circumstances; we remain
ignorant.

     2.  Our   inclinations   to  trust,   cooperate   and
collaborate are severely undermined.

     3.  We  are inclined to misunderstand each other  and
be motivated/guided by our fears,  rather than by reliable
knowledge.

     4.  We  cannot learn much from our mistakes;  because
we  blame each other for whatever "goes wrong".   We  deny
that we have ANY responsibility for whatever "goes wrong".

     5.  Because our  relationships lack integrity; we  as
individuals disintegrate.

     6.  Because  we as individuals lack integrity;    our
relationships disintegrate.

     7.  Because there are multiple inter-connected  feed-
back-loops;  they feed each other and augment exponential-
decay of our personal and communal integrities.

     8.  Because  we  are being compulsively  faithful  to
disintegrative-ideals ---  the consequences are tragically
dysfunctional --- and our working harder at being faithful
to    our    disintegrative-ideals  ---   engenders   more
tragic consequences  ---  in an endless cycle until we let
go  of our disintegrative-ideals; in life or in death.

     9.  We cannot accept each other into open and  honest
dialogue (or let ourselves be so accepted) just as we are;
and  so  we continue being alienated from our true  selves
and  others  ---  and cannot be well  informed  about  our
selves or each other.  Ignorance and fears prevail!

     We  are  engaged  in  disintegrative  idolatry,   the
worship  of false gods,  when we are  unable/unwilling  to
engage  in  open and honest dialogue with people  who  are
"different".    Differences  between  animals,   including
humans",   are inherent in our condition of being  who  we
are.  To  be  unable/unwilling to be in communication with
what is;  is to be ultimately alienated from what is real.
That is hell.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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