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 %CENTRAL KEY CHARACTERISTIC DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATION+020218
  %DOMINEERING SPECIAL INTERESTS TRULY KNOWING SELF+020218
 %OTHERS COLLUSIONS PARTICIPANTS APPEARANCES DEVILS+020218
%GOODS HONESTY OPENNESS INTEGRITY SACRIFICED SINNER+020218
%LOVERS WORKS CIVILIZATIONS FAMILIES CHURCHES HOPES 020218
                                                          
     One of the central characteristics of dysfunctional  
       relationships is that domineering participants in  
         the relationships -- are not truly interested in 
           knowing how others who are participants in the 
             relationships -- experience the relationships
               privately; e.g., in feeling, thinking,     
                 attitudes, fears, hopes, and aspirations.
                                                          
     Domineering participants in dysfunctional relations  
       seek to control how participants & bystanders "see"
         the relationships, other participants, and other 
           by-standers.  Appearances are paramount & must 
             be controlled.  Authenticity, honesty, and   
               openness must be sacrificed to achieve good
                 appearances.  "Evil people" are those who
                   stand in the way of achieving "good"   
                     appearances as defined by the "good" 
                       domineering managers of relations. 
                         Definitions of "good/evil" are   
                           confused in efforts to achieve 
                             control over relationships.  
                               Domineering peoples' know- 
                                 ledge of who is good and 
                                   who is evil leads to   
                                     tragic consequences. 
                                                          
     Domineering people usually distrust:                 
                                                          
     1.  Open and honest people who expose dominations.   
                                                          
     2.  Authentic people who do not respect domination.  
                                                          
     3.  Secure people who are safely vulnerable together.
                                                          
     4.  Cooperative people who are not conformists.      
                                                          
     5.  Creative people who envision/dream in new ways.  
                                                          
     6.  Lovers who move by the guidance of Holy Spirit.  
                                                          
     7.  Lovers who share their visions and dreams openly.
                                                          
     8.  Spirit-filled people who are not dominated bylaw.
                                                          
     9.  Powerful people who do not conform to domination.
                                                          
     10. Civil people who cooperate with "different" ones.
                                                          
     Be aware of and beware of domineering people.        
                                                          
     They lack integrity and undermine integrity.         
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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