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   %DIFFERENCE FUTILE FEARS LEGITIMATE AFFIRMATIONS+010308
    %DOMINATION SYSTEM NATURAL CONSEQUENCES PRUDENT+010308
 %GUILTY SHAMED CONTROLLER ADDICT CODEPENDENT DEVIL 010308
                                                          
     How  can we tell the difference between FUTILE  FEARS
and LEGITIMATE FEARS?                                     
                                                          
     1.  Legitimate fears are not engendered or controlled
by  domineering people in the service  of "The  Domination
System".                                                  
                                                          
     2.  Legitimate  fears  are rooted  in  well  informed
concerns about consequences which flow naturally from what
will undoubtedly happen under certain circumstances  which
can  be avoided ---  if prudent humane steps are taken  to
avoid those certain circumstances.                        
                                                          
     3.  FUTILE FEARS are engendered by domineering people
and used by domineering people as "handles"  with which to
manipulate,   manage,   control  and  dominate  vulnerable
people.                                                   
                                                          
     4.  FUTILE  FEARS  are  rarely  described  openly and
honestly in efforts to mitigate them ---  for according to
the hidden rules of "The Domination System"  they must  be
kept hidden,  mysterious,  and  apparently the natural and
inevitable consequences of any violation of "holy"  rules,
laws, and commandments --- which are in reality managed by
domineering   people  who  are  in  the  service  of  "The
Domination System".                                       
                                                          
     Above  ---   wherever FEARS are mentioned one can  as
well mention GUILT or  SHAME  ---   for domineering people
engender,  generate,  use and abuse all three realities in
ways which do  not  merit honor,  respect or support.   We
need to recognize, name, describe, be aware of, and beware
of  those ways of being domineering --- and of undermining
both personal and communal integrity.                     
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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