AVOID TAKING ANY STAND
For some people it is essential that people take a clear stand and defend whatever stand they have taken.
Such people find it hard to deal with others who seek to clarify realities and relationships between them.
People who insist that every body take a stand and defend their stand, often destroy each other in conflicts.
People who seek to clarify realities and relationships often cooperate in buinding healthy communities in Shalom's-Ways.
There are helpful roles for both kinds of people to play --- when their talents and dispositions are trully needed.
It is important that many people be able to discern --- when particular talents and dispositions are truly needed.
The talents/dispositions of domineering/contentious ones --- are rarely truly needed/appreciated by those affected.